Fisting: A General Introduction - Drugs Part I

FISTING & DRUGS, but first:

I’m strong against the use of or using drugs. 

Still I think it is necessary to tell and write about it in my blog. 

Today even more than before, 

yes it is true, even in the 80’s drugs were comment in the hard scene but not like what I see now a days.

No I’m not a saint I tried also things in the past, 

like my mother said always: 
"do not have an opinion about something if you do not know what it is or does". 
Even when she wasn't of course talking about drugs. LOL

But you hang around with friends and you do not want to be left out.

So I did and it didn't have any effect on me, because i am already hyperactif from nature.
and you know people still like me and think I’m cool. 

SO SAY NO AGAINST DRUGS.

My opinion is you have better sex/sessions without drugs, you are completely into the game with mind and body and you will undergoing the real feeling of fisting, the sensations you didn’t even know they existed.
I play with guys and ask them to try it without drugs and see how it goes. Now there are some guys smiling reading this, I know. Yes! For those who know me I have very big hands, but if you are comfortable and have trust in the person you will have a ffucking great time and the size won’t play a big rule. The result of it they go totally wild and when the session is over they can’t not get over it about what they felt. Or let it put it in their words: “wow, this is what fisting really is, I never felt this way it is mind blowing”. 

Like I said I know the reality is otherwise. For this reason I want to write about it, so I will give some facts concerning the use of drugs in the Fist world. Drugs are used in the Fist community because it helps you to get over certain limits like pain or getting into a higher dimension so you can block of some of those daily thoughts.

NO ADVICES BUT FACTS. 

Because like I said I do NOT promote drugs.

In our community you will find all kind of drugs and some of you don't even know what it does to you.
So with the help of my partner, friends and Wikipedia, I will try to explain.

Many sexual activities have side effects on people's concentration and these activities include (hand practice and secretion of your sperm) the attraction towards people (male and female) happens because of the atmosphere you have around you and the environment. Many drugs, both legal and illegal, have side effects which impact on the user's sexual functions. For example, the side effect of many legal antidepressants and antipsychotic drugs is the reduction of sexual desire.
Some drugs, such as cocaine, crystal and MDMA, increase sensual and erotic sensations, though both may inhibit sexual intercourse itself by causing temporary erectile dysfunctions.

Other drugs, such as alcohol, are notorious for being used to render unknowing victims unconscious or severely sedated and thus easy targets for sexual predators.
Perhaps the most common drug used is alcohol. At low concentrations of blood alcohol, social inhibitions are reduced, though in higher concentrations it can also inhibit performance. Many other drugs also inhibit sexual performance.

Tobacco use (e.g., cigarette smoking), also reduces sexual function, with the incidence of impotence being approximately 85 percent higher in male smokers compared to non-smokers.

A few drugs can actually increase sexual performance when used to treat erectile dysfunction. These include sildenafil (marketed as Viagra) and tadalafil. Bremelanotide appears to affect sexual desire directly, making it the first scientifically recognized aphrodisiac. This is also true of Melanotan II which bremelanotide is based upon. Additionally, the alkyl nitrites (poppers) have a long history of use as a sexual enhancement aid, going back about fifty years. According to the text "ISOBUTYL NITRITE and Related Compounds", many researchers agree that the alkyl nitrites may be a true aphrodisiac in the sense of promoting and enhancing sexual response.


Hard and soft drugs are terms to distinguish between psychoactive drugs that are addictive and perceived as especially damaging and drugs that are believed to be non-addictive (or minimally addictive) and with fewer dangers associated with their use. The term "soft drug" (marihuana, alcohol, cigarettes & caffeine) is considered controversial by its critics because it implies that the drug causes no or insignificant harm.
The distinction between soft drugs and hard drugs is important in the drug policy of the Netherlands, but totally different as the American (USA) or British (UK) drug policy.

Designer drugs are drugs that are created (or marketed, if they had already existed) to avoid the provisions of existing drug laws, usually by preparing analogs or derivatives of existing drugs by modifying their chemical structure to varying degrees, or less commonly by finding drugs with entirely different chemical structures that produce similar subjective effects to illegal recreational drugs.


Drugs, medicinal and recreational, can be taken in a number of ways. Many drugs can be administered in a variety of ways rather than just one.

• Bolus or medicine, a bolus (from Latin bolus, ball) is the administration of a medication
• Inhaled, (breathed into the lungs), as an aerosol or dry powder. (This includes smoking a substance)
• Injected as a solution, suspension or emulsion either: intramuscular, intravenous,intraperitoneal,    intraosseous.
• Insufflation, or snorted into the nose.
• Orally, as a liquid or solid, that is absorbed through the intestines.
• Rectally as a suppository, that is absorbed by the rectum or colon.
• Sublingually, diffusing into the blood through tissues under the tongue.
• Topically, usually as a cream or ointment. A drug administered in this manner may be given to act locally or systemically. 
• Vaginally as a suppository, primarily to treat vaginal infections.

SEX & DRUGS

A big difference between how gay men use drugs compared to straight people is that we’re much more likely to use them during sex.

What drugs can add to sex
Drugs, including alcohol, can make us feel more sexually confident or sexier in general -- using steroids to build an impressive body is an example. They can improve our sexual performance and give us added stamina for longer sex sessions, where you don't need to stop for food or sleep as much. Some have an aphrodisiac quality (they make us horny), others can become so linked in our minds with sex that we feel more ‘up for it’ just by taking them.

Chems, flirting and fucking
Lots of chems lower our inhibitions. We might make a move on someone we wouldn’t feel able to if we were sober, or be more sexually adventurous than we’d otherwise be.  Some drugs can heighten our body’s sensitivity, making sex more ‘touchy feely’. How we feel when we come can be enhanced, with it feeling like an ‘all over’ or ‘total body’ orgasm, instead of being just centred on the dick. Some drugs are used because they help with certain sex acts. Poppers relax the arse sphincter when fucking or fisting. Ketamine relaxes arse muscles too, and is used for fisting. Some drugs such as ketamine, speed, and crystal act as pain killers, especially when put directly on the arse hole. This lets men have rougher sex – and for longer.
But rougher and longer sex means there is more chance your skin will get sore or cut either inside the body or on the skin of cock and arse. This makes it easier for HIV to get out of one body and into another. Rougher, longer fucking also puts added stress on condoms. Rubbers are more likely to break after around 30 minutes, so a fresh one will be needed or at least check regularly that it’s still in one piece. Drugs and booze can also be a way of blotting out things that are bothering us, maybe deep seated issues about how we feel about ourselves, our sexuality and how we relate to others.


So there are a lot of drugs, i will explain some of the most comment ones used in our scene: Alcohol, Poppers, Viagra, Cocaine, Methamphetamime/Crystal meth, Ecstasy (MDMA), Marijuana/cannabis, GHB and GBL, Ketamine, Speed, Mephedrone & LCD...
etc. etc.


Alcohol 
is also known as booze or drink, in America it's called liquor and in Australia grog.
Booze is the oldest and most widely used drug in the World. It’s a mood changing drug and a depressant but in small doses it acts as a stimulant.

Highs and lows:
Alcohol heightens your mood, making you happier or more affectionate if you feel that way already. It can relax you, lower your inhibitions, and make you more sociable and confident. If your mood is low, alcohol can make it lower, and it’s well known for causing aggression. When booze lowers your inhibitions, it can put you at risk of harm and affect your judgement.
Because it’s a depressant, alcohol slows down your body’s reactions, causing slurred speech, lack of co-ordination, blurred vision, sleepiness or passing out. Other unwelcome effects are throwing up and dehydration -- not having enough water in the body is the main cause of hangovers. Higher doses cause blackouts where you can't remember what happened, and very high doses can lead to alcohol poisoning, which can kill.

Sex and alcohol

• Lower inhibitions, feeling horny and more confident.
• Feeling less uptight, more affectionate, more sexually assertive and experimental.
• Difficulty getting hard and coming.
• Heavy drinkers can have loss of sex drive and be unable to get hard.
• Effects on your judgement can increase risk taking during sex and make getting or passing on HIV more likely.
• Less control over the kind of sex you have or forgetting what kind of sex you've had.

Poppers 
are also known as amyl, butyl, isobutyl nitrite, amyl (especially in Australia, where it’s pronounced ‘ammul’), ‘aromas’, ‘liquid incense’ and by brand names like Liquid Gold and Rush. They’re often wrongly called ‘nitrates’, which are similar, but different, chemicals.
Poppers are a liquid made from chemicals from the alkyl nitrite family. The name comes from the days when they came in glass capsules that popped when broken open. Due to a change in the law which outlawed isobutyl nitrite in 2007, poppers on sale in the UK are now made with isopropyl nitrite. In other European country's recently the Laws was changed again and in mostly all of these country's it is forbidden now.

Highs and lows:
Seconds after breathing them in, poppers cause a rush of blood to your head, your heart beats fast and your muscles relax (including the sphincter muscle in your arse hole). For a few minutes you can feel an excited, light-headed feeling. Poppers can be used on the dance floor too, to boost the effects of music and lights. Headaches are the main side effect of the drug. Poppers spilt on the skin causes burns which go in a few days. Wash poppers off with water straight away but get medical help if they get in your eyes.
In some people, poppers cause dizziness or fainting. Some people have reported vision problems with the new forumla poppers sold after 2007 but sight returns to normal if use of poppers stops.


Sex on poppers

• can increase risk of HIV transmission due to: lower inhibitions making unsafe sex more likely, possible increased blood supply to arse making bleeding more likely; may weaken immune system for a short time increasing the chance of getting an infection.

Viagra 
is also known as sildenafil or sildenafil citrate. There are other erection drugs similar to Viagra, such as Cialis (tadalafil) and Levitra (vardenafil). ‘Generic Viagra’ is an almost identical version of the drug but it’s not sold under these well known brand names. One well known generic version is Kamagra. The information here is true for both Viagra and the other types of erection drugs. They work by increasing the flow of blood to the dick, giving a harder, longer lasting hard-on. Effects last around four hours. Cialis tends to last longer (up to one or two days for some men).

Highs and lows:

Viagra offers a quick fix for many men with erection problems, whether the cause is physical or psychological. Men with no real problems getting hard use these drugs too, to boost their sexual performance, especially if they are on chems that make getting erections difficult. Side effects can be a blocked nose, headache, a red face and chest, upset stomach or short-lived slight changes in vision. They’re less likely to work if you’re anxious or your hard-on difficulties have a physical cause like diabetes, circulation or prostate problems. Rare side effects include blindness, stroke, heart attack or death but this is more likely to happen to older men or those who have existing health problems, especially if they’re already on nitrate-based drugs for a heart condition.

Sex on Viagra

• may cause less sensitivity in the penis
• can make orgasm more difficult

In part II, 

we will try to tell you more about different kinds and 

the effects in combanation with sex

Fisting: A General Introduction Part IV

Lubes
Realizing that the anus was intended for the expulsion of fecal material and not for the insertion of foreign objects, one must take into consideration two primary factors; one how do you coax the anus into allowing the insertion of a foreign object and two what lubricant(s) should you use.

Anal-specific…
Many lubricants are safe for anal sex, but there are products that are specially made or designed to enhance enjoyment of anal sex. Often this is simply a thicker gel rather than a liquid.
This thicker consistency is preferable because it helps the lubricant stay in place.
Some lubricants contain benzocaine, Xylocaine/lidocaine (or lignocaine) or ketamine, they are anesthetics. However, the use of any numbing for anal penetration is not recommended in the beginning.
First learn to listen to you inner body/ass, as a lack of sensation makes or can make accidental injury more likely. In addition, benzocaine it can cause an allergic reaction in those with an allergy to PABA (4-aminobenzoic acid).

Here I will tell you about the various lubes that are currently available.
Lubes to use for Fist basically come in 5 main groups: water soluble, tropical oil based, vegetable based, silicone based and oil based. The last 2 groups like oil based and silicone based are not or netter not used for fisting.

Oil based, for example petroleum-based lubricants (petroleum jelly), such as Vaseline. Its use is strongly discouraged as it is not readily digestible, leaves a residue in the bowels that inhibits the normal functioning of the bowel, it can increase the likelihood of breakage and slipping of latex gloves due to loss of elasticity caused by these lubricants and is harder to wash off the skin and out of laundry.

Silicone-based, are usually formulated with fewer than four ingredients and do not contain any water. Silicone lubricants offer a different feel from water-based personal lubricants. They are not absorbed by skin or mucus membranes, and consequently last longer than water-based lubricants. Many different silicone lubricants are commercially available with varying quality and performance. Not all silicone-based lubricants are certified latex-safe, but silicone-based lubricants have not been shown to increase the risk of HIV transmission during anal intercourse, as some water-based lubes have.
Silicone-based lubricants are not usually recommended for use with sex toys or other products that are made from silicone because the formula may dissolve the surface making it sticky to the touch, and cause disintegration of the item over time. This damage may create a breeding ground for bacteria. In most cases a warning is listed on the product label. At least one manufacturer claims their silicone-based lubricant is safe for use with silicone products. They are also used in the manufacture of pre-lubricated condoms, due to its long-lasting properties and superior latex compatibility.

Only 3 groups are useful for Fisting.
Each group has its own particular advantages and disadvantages.

Water soluble lubes, (J-lube, Elbow Grease Gel, Foreplay, KY, Durex play feel, etc.), are water based. These have a tendency to dry out and become tacky during use and need to be re-applied several times or moistened with water during a session. A spray bottle of water is a useful and convenient way to accomplish this.

J- Lube’s primary ingredient is polyethylene oxide, there is a readymade one “Probe” another well-known water based lube for good heavy play. Both of these lubes are well-known for their stringy quality but they’re messy. The thing is that they form wonderful slick barriers that make large penetrations very much easier.

Tropical lubes, (Elbow Grease regular, Fist, Natural Lube, etc.), are made from palm/coconut oils and usually do not require any additional moisture to keep them slick. Care should be used as some people are allergic to tropical oils and products containing them. Ask your partner before using any lube that contains as part of its chemistry palm/coconut oils. Tropical lubes, like petroleum lubes, cause a rapid breakdown of latex items, so use a little extra caution and change gloves often during a session.

Vegetable based lubes, (Crisco, etc.), are made primarily from corn or soy bean oils. They are heavy, do not need any additional moisture to keep them slick and provide excellent adhesion to the anal area. Breakdown of latex items is minimal and the cost is negligible compared to the other types of lubes.

Some lubricants, with the exception of Crisco, contain Nonoxynol-9, a spermicide, which has proven beneficial in the destruction of the HIV virus that causes AIDS. However, there are conflicting reports among experts as to how beneficial Nonoxynol-9 is and there have been statements issued by the Surgeon General's office that Nonoxynol-9 has caused allergic reactions in some people. Here again, a little common sense and caution will pay off. Ask your partner if he/she is allergic to Nonoxynol-9. If your partner does not know proceed with extra care, or better yet, select a lube which does not contain nonoxynol-9.

In fisting, there can never be too much lube. You must remember that the sexual activity that you're engaging in causes a tremendous amount of stress to the anal area and the bowel, regardless of how careful you are, so the smoother you can make the penetration the better. There are people who use one can of Crisco every session. A little messy, but the results are great! Myself I love to play with Crisco because if I want rimming the rose-butt and I LOVE that, I do not want to have a strange taste in my mouth, but in the last years I learned to do it also with other lubricants… still you will see a difference if I play with Crisco I go even more wild.

Lube contamination is a major concern, especially if you are involved in a group scene. Most of the commercially available products come in squeeze tubes or with pump tops for dispensing. Others, such as Crisco, do not have these advantages so extra care must be taken to prevent contamination. The easiest way to do this is to portion the lube out into disposable containers. This way the original container doesn't become contaminated by everyone "helping" themselves. In a one on one session the one pound cans of Crisco are easy to use and dispose of.
With a little experimentation you will determine which lube is best for you. Everyone has his favorites.
The best rule is to use whatever the bottom prefers. If you, as the top, are allergic to the chemical structure of the lube, take a few extra precautions to protect yourself such as wearing a long sleeve shirt with the gloves up over the sleeve cuffs or obtain some veterinarians' gloves like those used in artificial insemination of livestock which go all the way up to the arm pit. With a little common sense and care, you and your partner should be able to have a fulfilling session.

NOTE: 

PLEASE TO ALL BEGINNERS AND OR THOSE WHO PLAY ALREADY FOR A LONGTIME, MORE AND MORE I SEE ON PARTIES AROUND THE WORLD GUYS COMEING IN WITH PLASTIC DISHWASH BOTTLES FILLED WITH J-LUBE OR ANY OTHER LUBRICANT.

THIS IS A TURN-OFF

THERE ARE PLASTIC CONTAINERS OR BOTTLES YOU CAN BUY EVERY WHERE 

LIKE IN SPORT SHOPS 

USE THEM, 

IT'S MORE SEXY

example:

or

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Fisting: A General Introduction - part III

Additional what I wrote about the eating,
I need to tell you that besides paying attention on what to eat there is more.
You have to find out for yourself how long it takes to digest/corrode food, for each and every person this is different. For me it is 48 up to 72 hours, for my boyfriend it is 1 up to 3 hours… so you see different.
If you do not know your timetable, let me tell how you can find out. Prepare yourself a dinner with potatoes, spinach and beef. (If you do not like spinach replace this with beetroot.) The stool will be green (with beetroot = red) colored in de following hours or days. Every time you go the toilets check-out your stool. Now you know how long it takes. This is good to find out what you can expect while you douche/clean your ass.

The washing or cleaning is the best way to do it in 2 or 3 times, if you have eaten other food that I mentioned in “Part I” or let me remind you all kind of pastas/spaghettis are good diets before playing. All this is again depending on your stool? All other food are maybe requiring more cleaning. I know guys who only live on pastas & spaghettis… but they are into heavy playing (meaning 5 or 6 days in a week).
Let me tell you, if you know you going to play in the evening than the best is to clean the first time in the morning or after waking up whatever hour that is … a small cleaning around 10 to 15 minutes. The 2nd time you clean again 10 to 15 min. yourself around lunchtime or just after finishing work and if it is necessary the 3th time one hour before the FFun, 10 to max. 20 minutes. This is a nice and comfortable way of cleaning yourself and good for the inner flora of your body.
If you really hungry you can eat something like or with rice, around lunchtime or 4 to 3 hours before playing. Rice in general stops everything for some hours…

Having selected your equipment, eaten (and mentally prepared), you are now ready to begin. The idea is to create an environment in which you can relax. Relaxation is your "best" friend when cleaning out. After you find out what is the best way for you or for those who are used to the process of cleaning it will go much easier. But even I see sometimes guys who are into fisting for quite a while that they do not know really how to clean....

Your bowels will be receptive and agreeable to the enema. Select a tepid/lukewarm water temperature, something that feels pleasant to the skin. ATTENTION! Remember the bowels can’t "feel". Water that is too warm may cause burning of the interior lining. Water that is too cool may cause cramps. If it is your first time than apply a small amount of lubricant (something that is NOT water soluble or petroleum based) to the anal area and nozzle. Lubrication allows for easier insertion of the nozzle. Allow the water to enter you at a rate that doesn't cause immediate discomfort or "triggers" the evacuation response. The best results are obtained by taking just enough fluid in to cause some pressure in your left side. When you reach this point remove the nozzle and retain the water by clenching your anal muscles. Retention allows the water to move around in the bowel. You can also scrub your hand over your stomach to stimulate this also called gravity. As it does, the pressure you felt in you will subside and additional water may be injected. Time and experience will teach you when to add more or release what you have. When releasing, FORCE, yourself to do so in a calm and relaxed manner. Sudden expulsion of the enema mixed with fecal material can cause fissures and abrasions to the rectal tissues. Use common sense. Repeat the process until the fluid you are releasing is clear with no fecal fragments visible.

If you really have difficulty getting clean enough, it's worth filling yourself partially, holding it, and lying down or even raising the hips slightly. This allows gravity to work in your favor, and moves the water more deeply into the bowel. You'll find that expelling after deep filling will take longer, and water will continue to make its way down for some time, but once you're used to it, you'll learn to know when its all out. Doing this repeatedly over a period of a couple of hours, with 15-20 min breaks, will in most guys clean out deeply and effectively.

It's also worth taking a moment to think about the shape of the bowel, and where it lies in the abdomen. Tracing the route upward from the anus, the rectum generally slopes toward the guy's left, kinks slightly, and moves up the left hand side of the body as the descending colon until it turns a corner more or less under the bottom of the rib cage. Lying on your left side will again help gravity to help in the cleaning process, by letting the water enter the descending colon more easily.  No matter how careful the cleaning out, nothing can guarantee cleanliness, especially with deep or heavy fisting.  No real fister will be phased by this, and will simply scoop it out and carry on. Wishing to be as clean as possible is understandable and reasonable, but fisting really isn't an activity for anyone who is paranoid about coming into contact with shit.

DO NOT and i repeat DO NOT go on for more than a half hour with putting water in or push it to far this will make your ass tired even before starting. Liters of water is't good either do it in small proportians.
Short periods are better...

There is one other very important thing to do before we start to play:
Tops & Bottoms cute your nails. 
Please, uncut nails can do a lot of harm to the bottom. 
Check also if after cutting the nails are smooth if not polish them. 

Once again, this information is in no way an absolute standard for the practices being discussed.
Each one of you must determine for him/her-self what suits them.
I can’t say it enough this is written out of our experience, but in the 30 years of me fisting it helped a lot of guys with it…

Fisting: A General Introduction - part II

Equipment to clean - and what do I want?
(Anal Douches & Enemas)
Cleaning is one of the most important things to do before playing. Man or woman it does not matter you have to, out of respect for your partner or the people you play with. You do not want to play in an undiscovered black or red sea.... (except for thos who wear a brown hanky).

There are a lot of items available on the market today.
Experimentation will help you decide which works best for you.
Cost will also be a factor so take your time.

Everyone has seen the neat little ready-to-use disposable products.
For a quick "clean-out" before or a quick rinse out afterwards, these are great.
However, from a complete cleansing point of view they are a little ineffective.

Syringe bulbs have a major advantage over the fleet/stream.
You have a reusable, refillable container that is easily transported and used.
But, here again, they are not practical as you have to refill often.

Both are easy to travel with you never know where you find good action and sometimes you’re not prepared. We were on the road one day, somewhere in Holland and we wanted to play :-))  we went in to a public bathroom filled it up with water and cleaned ourselves, 15 min later we were playing somewhere outside and later a 2nd time in the car it was HOT… so it can be handy.

or

The old fashioned hanging "douche" bag is great for a novice/ beginner.
They come with a water control device which will allow you to regulate the rate and amount you wish to take in. The bag is portable, easy to clean and use. Cost wise the bag is cheap and will last for some time given proper care and storage.

Shower shots or tubes are  the most comment used. The aluminum ones they are somewhat expensive, ranging in price from 50€ to 150€ depending on where you purchase one.  It is portable, but not without disadvantages. The only disadvantages I have found are solids in the water will eventually clog up the openings in the shot and not enough nozzle depth for a really high cleaning.

or

Polypropylene or silicone tubing is cheaper between 25€ and 80€, flexible, easy to use/clean and sterilize for multiple person usage (still the best is that you use your own - hygienically) and now a day to buy in different sizes up to 40/50 cm. allowing for greater depth in cleaning. Easy to transport and is light weight.
Shots/tubes are sometimes equipped with an aluminum nozzle attached to a flexible hose, connected to a 2-way valve that is usually installed in the shower or you unscrew the showerhead and replace it with your tube.
Attention do not start with large/long tubes before you know how to clean yourself.
You don't want to hurt yourself so start with the standard sizes.

Most of these equipments / tools you can by or either on the web or in sexshops all over the world or just around your corner....
Cleaning up can be half the fun. So choose out of the variety of anal douches and enema styles for hygiene and pleasure.

Other:

adapting piece for your douche:

always easy

(around 25€)

Travel kitt:

Fisting: A General Introduction - part I

Because I can only discuss fisting from the anal point of view, I will have to find someone to help me out and will tell about fisting from the vaginal point of view.
(So if someone in your circle of friends who is straight and likes fisting too. Please let her or him get in contact with me. Stop laughing there are more straight people than you think who loves this too)

So I will tell you about the things i learned in the 39 years that I practice fisting.
I enjoyed this fetish so much that it became actually my second life... :-))
Or like some say "I am a fist addicted"...

Yes, 39 years! I was young when I discovered Fisting for the first time but from the moment I saw it done to someone I couldn´t get my mind away from it. Why? Because already active sexually very young it was the first time that I saw a guy with an expression on his face of joy, pleasure, being in heaven and a smile ...wooff.  Still when I think about that first moment I’m getting warm inside.....
The person who was fisting looked at me and asked if I liked what I saw?
My answer: "can´t you see that on my face".
He asked me if i wanted to learn all about it and before he finished his question I was knotting YES, YES. So they gave me a 3 day lesson... 3 days of total pleasure.
They told me about the techniques, preparation - all types of equipment preparing before completing the act an how much is enough in cleaning or using and when to stop in playing?
Lubrications what to use for what and the effect of...
Safe Sex (lube, contamination, gloves, hands & preparation fingernails, calluses, proper disposal of materials and the clean-up)
Mood, enhancements, drugs, alcohol, poppers etc. etc.
By the way I am NOT a fan of drugs and I wont encourage people to use it. I prefer that you won’t use it.
It is so much more pleasure without and you will enjoy it 100 times more without. 
Either through it is a longer process to reach the goal.
But I will try to tell the effects of it, because I know it is well used in our community or better said sometimes (more & more) miss-used. (So for your own safety I will explain it, because it is enemy Nº 1, if it is used wrong for those who like fisting)

So after 3 days being in heaven and going back home I felt like a man, a man who good give pleasure to others. Giving the highest climax in pleasure. Beside the above I learned also that fisting is more than only putting a hand in someone’s ass, it is the whole game incl. rimming, eating the rose-bud, fucking -especially after fisting- and wet sex. Okay the last goes very good together with fist but not always a must, depends on the guy and yourself.

When I came out of the closet i found very quick my way in the gay community even we did not have internet on that time, the first 2 years I was looking what I was looking for and then I found out about the Leather scene, one of the community´s in the gay world. Real man who like man.
Putting on a leather jacket and went to the capital of the gay world: Amsterdam ,
to the Argos  one of the dutch oldest leather bars. When I entered the first time, “wooouuww”, I don´t say it was a shock but it was a world that only happened up so far in my mind, suddenly it was there in front of me.
Because I did not know what to do or behave, I took up an attitude as the one of the Active guy. Whenever someone approached to me and wanted more I looked around and did the same.... and yes with every moment I was learning very fast.
But with fisting I was happy that someone teached/learned me how and what to do, also here I was only interested in the active way of fist. Years later (8 years later) when I found "the" good connection with a guy the fisted me too. Finally I learned besides doing it also how it felt to be fisted. In totally I have been fisted 5 times and I really enjoyed it 2 times, not because the others didn´t know what they were doing but because with that guy I had that special connection. For me it was enough, I’m not passive. I don´t enjoy any kind of penetration like fucking, fisting or toys. Being active suits me fine.

For the passive side of fisting I will relay on my boyfriend, who is like me is addicted to this fetish and has doing it for 10 years now. Together we hope that you will in time have the same feeling as us in enjoying the game....

Common sense tells us that any good fisting scene has to be preceded by thoughtful preparation. One of the MOST important processes is the Act. BUT, before you begin there are several things you should do first. Here, again, we're speaking from a personal view (this works best for us point of view). However, most fisters I know will tell you or agreed with it that we all prepared in basically the same manner with minor variations to suit ourselves. Careful planning ahead will make for an easier "clean-out" and provide longer "staying" in power.


Food or Diet is your first consideration. Foods that move rapidly through the digestive system should be avoided. Foods that take longer to digest, such as rare beef, chicken, lasagna, are highly recommended. (Personally I find that a pizza does great as the combination of meat, cheese and dough or spaghetti bolognaise will plug my system for about 36 hours.) Foods to be avoided are veggies, fruits, soups and heavy sweets. Eating about 3 hours prior to the play is also recommended as this allows your digestive system time to start moving the food from your stomach into the intestinal tract for "blocking".
DO NOT attempt a play immediately after eating. You wouldn't go swimming so don't do fist. You MUST allow the body to prepare.
Do not drink relaxation drinks or those drinks that do it to your body system like these beers: Geuze, Kriek, Duvel or any other drink made with aged Hops, 3 hours before playing.
(Once in my bar I gave a guy Geuze to drink because he wanted to taste Belgium beers, he drunk 3 but did not say he was into fisting, a couple of hours later you wouldn't have liked to see my darkroom and the guy who was playing with him.)

One of the most origanal ways i ever saw to put out your

Hanky Code...

Blank Hanky, Bottom Right

Body art/performance

2010

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Answers on questions.....

I know the ass is sensitive, but how many nerve endings are there in the ass?

 

Is it the same in guys and girls?

 

and are the “good feeling nerves” located in the sphincter or the rectum?

The anus - the anal opening, the anal canal - the first few centimeters inside, and the rectum are all sensitive in different ways, which is why anal stimulation and penatration can be so pleasurable. The external and internal sphincter muscles surround the anal opening. These muscles can work together or independently of each other, and these are the muscles we must learn to relax in order to fulfill comfortable anal penetration.

When we talk about the sphincter and pelvic muscles and how they play a role in anal pleasure, we discuss them less in terms of sensitivity and more in terms of how tone and in shape they are and how tense or relaxed they are. The anus and the outside part of the anal canal are made of the same sensitive soft tissue and this tissue contains the most concentration of nerve endings of all our anal anatomy. In general, this tissue tends to be more sensitive to touch and vibration. The inner part of the anal canal and the rectum are mucous membrane and have a lot less nerve endings; however this tissue is much more sensitive to pressure - like from penetration.

Man and women have nearly identical anorectal anatomy except for one important difference: men have a prostate gland, which can be stimulated directly via anal penetration. The prostate gland surrounds part of a man’s urethra; it’s behind the pubic bone, below the bladder and above the base of the penis. A mass of muscle, glands, and connective tissue, the prostate is about the size and shape of a walnut; it produces ejaculatory fluid that combines with sperm and fluid from the seminal vesicles to create male ejaculate. Men can experience direct prostate stimulation when they are anally penetrated. It can be found by sliding a finger or toy some centimeters inside a man’s ass and aiming toward the front of his body.

While women don’t have a prostate, but they do have a G-spot and can experience indirect of the G-spot stimulation through anal penetration. The G-spot is the urethral sponge which sits around the urethra; to find it, slip a finger inside her vagina a couple of centimeters and toward the front of her body. The G-spot can be stimulated through the front wall of the vagina or indirectly though anal sex.


With special thanks to my doctor for the kind explanation...

Codes & Signs...

Before we go further let me explain you the codes & signs that we use in this blog and in the real world. Those signs you can find frequently on the web pages with dating services.    

In our world or better said in the world of Gay Fetish fantasies, so also the Fist community uses a lot of codes and signs.

First let's talk about what we like as a person, active or passive and also versatile.
Top or bottom?
In general we know what we like in our sexual behavior or we know to what we are attracted. If not let me help You:

Active/Top: a person who we call active or top is a person who likes to do things in a dominant way, to control.

THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT THIS PERSON DOESN’T LIKE TO BE SUCKED RIMMED OR THAT HE DOES NOT LIKE PAIN OR ROUGH SEX.                      

An active guy can also be submissive but does not like penetrations in any kind of form.     

An active person wants to give in general he likes to fuck, fist etc.

or be the master of the game, the S in SM = Sado Masochism.

Passive/Bottom: a person who we call passive or bottom is a person who likes to get things done to him, to receive.
THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT THIS PERSON DOESN’T LIKE TO DO THINGS TO LIKE SUCKING RIMMING OR TO GIVE PLEASURE THE OTHER PERSON.                 
A passive guy can be active too but likes above all penetrations.  A passive person wants to receive in general he likes to get fucked fisted etc.  So being more the M in SM.

Versatile: is a person that likes both sides active/passive or some people say also that they do not know what they really want. (My personal experience is that 8 out of 10 versatile guys I met are passive.) But sometimes you walk up to one who really is….                          
Versatile guys you see on profiles on gay dating services as 50/50.
You also see profiles with 60 or 70% etc. in either direction, in general it means we like one side more than the other but we can switch.

FISTING:

FF = Fist Fucking (Hand Fucking)

double Fist = 2 Fist (Hands)

Fist boxing or Boxing = Punching with the hands

Deep or Elbow deep fisting

Wide fisting

FFun = Fist Fun

Feet Fucking or Feet fisting = Same as Fist but with the feet.

Hanky code signs…

The hanky code sign is an old system that was already used in the 18 century by Christian people in the far west, in that time the hanky’s were used in 3 colors white/yellow/orange to say: I want something – I am free or I am married but still want sex.
It was picked back up by the gay community in the 60’s / 70’s but with more colors and other meanings. I will explain the most common ones. Here we come back again to the active/top wearing the hanky on the left side, in general in the back pocket of his pants (Why left? Like in politics the left is in general more active), the passive/bottom is wearing the hanky on the right side. Versatile guys wear this in general around their neck.
For fisting it is the color RED.

                                                                                right:                          left:

• RED               =    Fist                              Fist fucker                 Loves to get fisted
• Dark RED     =    double Fist                 2 Hand fister             2 Hand fistee
• Dark Bleu      =    Fucking                      Loves to Fuck            Loves to get fucked
• Light Bleu      =    Sucking                      Wants head               Expert cocksucker
• Yellow            =    Watersport/Piss         Pisser                         Piss freak
• Grey               =    Bondage                     Bondage top              Bondage bottom
• Orange           =   Anything                    Anything/anytime      Nothing  now
• Brown            =    Scat                             Scat top                      Scat bottom
• Army Green  =    Uniforms or drill       Militairy top              Militairy bottom

Those are the most famous ones... there are a lot more and i will put the whole list here one day.

Este blog...

Fisting es : un acto, un ambiente, preparación, control y comunicación con la pareja.
Espero que a través de la ayuda de mi blog se puede obtener información valiosa y aprender más acerca de este fetiche no importante si tu eres un principiante o un Fister o Fistee con experiencia.
Estoy abierto para preguntas y discusiones, así que siéntete libre para decirme su experiencia.
Las experiencias de un activo o de un pasivo son totalmente diferentes, pero hay que escuchar uno el otro.
Esta es una regla de oro ... 

NADA lo que escribo aquí o está escrito por otra persona que escribe en este blog debe ser interpretado que es el la única manera como hacer.
Cada uno tiene que decidir por él / ella mismo como es el mejor y lo más cómodo su mismo. Este blog pretende ser una guía y para generar una mente abierta, el intercambio positivo de flujo libre de ideas, información y experiencias.
Puedes escribir a mí en los siguientes idiomas: English, Castellano, Francais, Nederlands, Deutsch y Maygar. Todos los demás idiomas necesito tu ayuda,
así que siéntete libre de publicar en tu propio idioma.


Doy la bienvenida a todas las preguntas.
Si tú crees que el conocimiento disipa la ignorancia y el miedo y conduce a una mejor comprensión de tu mismo y de la gente alrededor de ti, ven, viaje con nosotros para explorar los placeres de FISTING.

FFTop66

This Blog...

Fisting: is an act, an environment, preparatio, control and communication with your partner.
All those things we gona discuse in detail.
I hope that through the help of my blog you can get valuable information and learn more about this fetish whether you are a beginner or an experienced Fister or Fistee.
I'm open for questions and discussion, so feel free to tell me your experience.
The experience of a Top or Bottom are totaly different but you haveto listen to the other. 
This is a golden rule...


NOTHING I write here or is written by another person as a comment should be interpreted like that is the only way to go.
Everyone has to decide for him / herself what is the best and most comfortable. This blog is intended to be a guide and to generate an open minded, positive ambient to exchange ideas, information and experiences.
You can write to me in the following languages: (English, Castellano, Francais, Nederlands, Deutsch & Magyar)  In all the other languages I need your help,
so feel free to post in your own language.

I welcome all questions.
If you believe that knowledge dispels ignorance and fear and leads to a better understanding of yourself and the people around you, come, travel with us to explore the pleasures of Fisting.


FFTop66

Questions:

I know the ass is sensitive, but how many nerve endings are there in the ass? 

Is it the same in guys and girls? 

And are the “good feeling nerves” located in the sphincter or the rectum?

Answers tomorrow....

Preguntas:

Sé que el culo es sensible, pero ¿cuántos hay terminaciones nerviosas en el culo?

¿Es lo mismo en los chicos y chicas?

Y son los "buenos sentimientos" nervios localizados en el esfínter o el recto?

Respuestas mañana ....

What is fisting? 

By definition it is the insertion of the hand into the anal or vaginal openings of the body.
Why fisting? Why not? We, ALL, are constantly searching far higher and more fulfilling planes of sexual pleasure. But, we are not here for a discussion on the merits of fisting. Not yet at least.
First of all we have to understand the basics and acquaint ourselves with the preparations undertaken prior to the actual act, which, in themselves, can be extremely erotic and/or sexually satisfying.

I will not be the first to admit that fisting is probably the MOST dangerous form of sexual interaction.
But done with care the MOST erotic and satisfying form of sex...

The anal and urethra openings were created for the expulsion of feces and urine from the body. When you begin to explore this activity, you must have a basic understanding of how the body works, a working knowledge of the internal structure you are about to enter and possess the ability to control yourself in order to allow the process to proceed slowly, carefully and at a place where "the bottom" is comfortable with.

¿Qué es fisting? 

Por definición, es la introducción de la mano en las aberturas anal o vaginal del cuerpo.
¿Por qué el fisting? ¿Por qué no? Nosotros, todos, están en constante búsqueda mucho mayor y más satisfactoria planos de placer sexual. Sin embargo, no estamos aquí para una discusión sobre el fondo de fisting. Todavía no ha sido menos. En primer lugar tenemos que entender los conceptos básicos y familiarizarnos con los preparativos realizados antes del acto en sí, que, en sí mismos, pueden ser muy erótico y / o sexual satisfactoria.

No voy a ser el primero en admitir que el fisting es probablemente la forma más peligrosa de interacción sexual. Pero hacerse con cuidado la forma más erótico y satisfactoria de sexo ...

Las aberturas anales y la uretra fueron creados para la expulsión de las heces y la orina del cuerpo. Cuando usted comienza a explorar esta actividad, usted debe tener un conocimiento básico de cómo funciona el cuerpo, un conocimiento de la estructura interna que está a punto de entrar y poseer la capacidad de controlarse a sí mismo con el fin de permitir que el proceso se desarrolle lentamente, con cuidado y en un lugar donde "el passivo" se siente cómodo.

What are we talking about:

Fisting, handballing, fist-fucking, is asexual activity that involves inserting a hand into the vagina or rectum. 
Once insertion is complete, the fingers either naturally clench into a fist or remain straight. In more vigorous forms of fisting, such as "punching" or "punchfisting", a fully clenched fist may be inserted and withdrawn slowly. Fisting may be performed with or without a partner.

¿De qué estamos hablando?
Fisting, handballing, fist-fucking, es un término inglés, es asexual actividad que consiste en insertar una mano en la vagina o el recto. Una vez que la inserción se completa, los dedos de forma natural apretar en un puño o permanecer recta. En las formas más vigorosas de fisting, tales como "fistiing" o "punchfisting", un puño completamente cerrado puede ser insertado y retirado lentamente. 
Fisting puede realizarse con o sin un compañero.

All about FIST...

English - Francais - Nederlands - Deutsch - Castellano

Hi everyone,

this is my new Blog and like the tittle says everything you always wanted to know about fisting...

Techniques, medical advices, bottom or top we will try to answer all your questions.

My (profil)name is FFTop66 and I am practicing the art of Fist over 30 years and I get a lot of questions about it. Beside that I see more and more that at parties guys are doing things they do without thinking, just because it became a populair fetish the last years... and they want to be a part of it. Without any advice!

So I will try to make the best out if it...
Together with my Cub I will try to help you out in this fantasy or fetish ...
Top or Botttom you can ask us what ever you want.

MORE TO COME SOON


Tout à propos de FIST

Salut tout le monde,
ceci est mon nouveau blog et comme le titre dit tout vous avez toujours voulu savoir sur le fisting ...
Techniques, conseils médicaux, passive ou active, nous allons essayer de répondre à toutes vos questions.

Mon (profil) nom est FFTop66 et je pratique l'art de fist plus de 30 ans et je reçois beaucoup de questions à ce sujet. A côté de cela, je vois de plus en plus de gars que lors de fêtes font ce qu'ils font sans réfléchir, juste parce fist est devenu un fétiche populaire ces dernières années ... et ils veulent être une partie de celui-ci. Sans aucun conseil!

Donc, je vais essayer de vous aider ...
Avec mon Cub je vais essayer de vous aider dans ce fantasme ou fétiche ...
Active ou passive vous pouvez nous demander ce que vous voulez.

PLUS BIENTOT



Alles over Fist

Hallo iedereen,
dit is mijn nieuwe blog en net als de tittel zegt alles wat je altijd al wilde weten over fisting ...
Technieken, medische adviezen, Top of Bottom we zullen proberen om al je vragen te beantwoorden.

Mijn (profil) naam is FFTop66 en ik beoefen de kunst van het Fisten meer dan 30 jaar en ik krijg veel vragen hierover. Daaraast zie ik meer en meer dat op feestjes er jongens zijn die dingen doen zonder na te denken wat ze doen, alleen maar omdat het een populair fetish is geworden de laatste jaren ... en ze willen erbij horen. Zonder enig advies!

Dus ik zal proberen met mijn ervaring er het beste van te maken ...
Samen met mijn Cub zal ik proberen om u te helpen in deze fantasie of fetish ...
Top of botttom je kunt ons vragen wat je maar wilt.

BINNENKORT MEER



Rund ums Fisten...

Hallo allerseits,
Das ist mein neuer Blog und wie der Tittle schon verrät hier findet ihr alles,
was ihr schon immer über Fisting wissen wolltet...
Techniken, medizinische Ratschläge, egal ob Top oder Bottom, wir versuchen alle Fragen zu beantworten.

Meine Profilemame ist FFTop66 und ich übe die Kunst der Fisten über mehr als 30 Jahren, und ich bekomme eine Menge von Fragen zu diesem Thema. Außerdem merke ich, dass mehr und mehr Jungs und Männer fisten auf Parties, ohne das zu wissen was sie machen, nur weil in den letzten Jahren Fisting ein populairer Fetisch geworden ist...

Also werde ich versuchen, mein bestes zu geben, ob es zu machen ...
Zusammen mit meinem Cub werden wir versuchen Ihnen zu helfen in diesem Fantasy-oder Fetisch ...
Egal ob Top oder Bottom, Ihr könnt uns alles Fragen.

MEHR IN KURZE


Todo sobre el Fisting

Hola a todos,
este es mi nuevo blog y como el título dice hablo sobre todo lo que siempre querias saber sobre el fisting ...
Técnicas, consejos médicos, no importa si eres activo o pasivo 
intentamos responder a todas preguntas.

Mi prefil es FFTop66 y estoy practicando el arte del Fisting hace más que 30 años y siempre recibo un montón de preguntas. 
Además veo cada vez más y más hombres fisteando en las fiestas, sin saber de verdad que hacen. 
Sólo porque el Fisting se convirtió en un fetiche populair en los últimos años...

Así que voy dar mis mejores consejos...
Junto con mi pareja vamos intentar ayudarle en esta fantasía o fetiche ...
Activo o passivo, nos puedes preguntar todo...

MUY PRONTO!