Sunday, March 31, 2013
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Fisting & Anatomy: the Colon...
The Sigmoid Colon…
Lying above the rectum is the colon. The two are separated by a curving junction called the Sigmoid. The sigmoid colon (pelvic colon) is the part of the large intestine that is closest to the rectum and anus. It forms a loop that averages about 40 cm in length, and normally lies within the pelvis, but on account of its freedom of movement it is liable to be displaced into the abdominal cavity. When feces exit the colon into the rectum, the pressure triggers the rectal reflex, at this point, the internal sphincter automatically relaxes. So also when we put something in, on this moment the inner part of the ass, the internal sphincter, the rectum and sigmoid colon relaxes, in a way.
Understanding the curve of this junction becomes important in more advanced forms of anal play such as fisting and penetration with large toys. When feces exit the colon into the rectum, the pressure triggers the rectal reflex, At this point, the internal sphincter automatically relaxes.
The large Intestine…
Essentially, the large intestine (or bowel, colon) is one continuous tube, approximately 1.80 meters to 2 meters long, comprising five sections ascending colon, transverse colon, descending colon, sigmoid and rectum: and all ending in the anus. Its purpose is to absorb vitamins, minerals and water, as well as to move digestive waste from the small intestine to the anus, where it’s expelled.
The large intestine takes about 16 hours to finish the digestion of the food. It removes water and any remaining absorbable nutrients from the food before sending the indigestible matter to the rectum. The colon absorbs vitamins which are created by the colonic bacteria - such as vitamin K (especially important as the daily ingestion of vitamin K is not normally enough to maintain adequate blood coagulation), vitamin B12, thiamine and riboflavin.
It’s characterized by folds and curves. The folds give the large intestine a great degree of expansion much like an accordion.
The large intestine is particularly efficient at liquid absorption, which turns the liquid waste of the small intestine into solid feces. (This absorptive quality, coupled with the delicacy of the anal tissue, is what makes the rectal region particularly susceptible to infections transmitted via body fluids, such as HIV and gonorrhea.) The smooth muscles of the intestinal walls combined with a lubricating lining of mucosal tissue, ensure the easy movement of bulky, solid waste trough the large intestine.
Monday, March 25, 2013
Fisting & Anatomy: the Prostate...
The prostate Gland
An important male sexual organ, the prostate gland produces prostatic fluid, the lubricant that facilitates the ejaculation of sperm. Prostatic fluid is a whitish secretion and give ejaculate its whitish appearance. It collects within the prostate and feeds into the urethra during ejaculation. Prostatic fluid makes up about one-third of the total ejaculate, along with sperm and seminal fluid. It helps sperm to swim and protects them from being damaged by the acidity of urine in the urethra.
The prostate lies below the bladder and just in-front of the rectum. You can find the prostate by placing your index finger all the way into the anus and pressing toward the front of the body along the rectal wall. It should be about 5 to 6 centimetres inside the anus. Rub gently and slowly, as any sudden hitting of the prostate can be painful. In a few men, it will cause spontaneous ejaculation.
This is what can happens during fisting with some guys they think they have to piss and surprise, the come, even without feeling the action. They will look surprised at you and do not know what happened.
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Friday, March 22, 2013
Fisting & Anatomy: the Anus...
After I posted part 1 1/2 about the anus and how flexible it is, I got a lot of questions if I can be more detailed. I will try, with the help of my doctor, some medical books, sex manuals and everything I could find on the internet resources.
The Anus
This is the anal canal's external opening of soft, pinkish tissue folds, which give it a puckered appearance. The anus is located several centimetres below the tailbone and several centimetres above the scrotum, directly behind the perineum. The Anus is rich in blood and vessels and sensitive nerve endings that enjoy stimulation and touch. The area surrounding the opening is populated with follicles; while every adult has hair surrounding the anus, it varies in appearance from fine and downy to thick and dark.
The Anal Sphincters
The anal opening contains two sphincters. Although they're called internal and external, they are actually somewhat overlapping bands of circular muscle.
The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system, which in turn controls all our voluntary muscles; suck those in our hands or legs. Typically, the external sphincter is under control; it's the muscle you tighten when you want to go to the bathroom but you can't go immediately.
The internal sphincter, by contrast, is part of the automatic nervous system, which controls reflexive functions such as breathing and blood pressure. With practice, one may learn exert some degree of influence over the action of the internal sphincter. This seems to be the spot that stores up much of the tension and stress in the anal region, which can lead to haemorrhoids and other anal discomfort.
A relaxed sphincter is capable of allowing feces to be expelled, whereas a tense sphincter is capable of excretion only by training, if at all. Likewise, it´s the tense state of the sphincters that makes anal penetration painful and difficult. Whereas relaxed sphincters facilitate pleasurable, pain-free anal penetration. Shortly we´ll explore some techniques for promoting anal relaxation.
The Perineal Muscles
Close to the sphincters are the perineal muscles, which have some relationship to the sphincters. The perineal muscles support the tissue surrounding the anus as well as the area between the genitals and the anus, called the perineum. My favourite spot…
Two specific perineal muscles are important to our purposes.
The first is the “bulbocavernosus” muscle.
In men, it envelops the bulb (not be confused with the head) of the penis, between the scrotum and the anus. This muscle serves to help empty the urethral canal after urination. After ejaculation, you can expel most residual seminal fluid by pressing firmly on the perineum, sliding you finger upward past the scrotum and along the underside of the shaft toward the urethral opening (meatus). You can feel the “bulbocavernosus” muscle by pressing on the approximate centre of your perineum. You may feel a slight twinge, and your penis may jump a little. Most men find some pressure on this point to be pleasurable, while others experience discomfort.
The second important muscle is the “pubococcygeus” muscle, more commonly known as the PC muscle.
This is the same one you use to stop the flow of urine while peeing. You can squeeze it while you´re urinating or by simply pretending to urinate. You can feel the muscle contract by placing your finger on your perineum (the area between your genitals and the anus). Also, you can felt the contractions strongly in your anus. The PC muscle contracts randomly during sexual arousal and rhythmically during orgasm. Learning to control it voluntarily can enhance the quality of sex.
To some degree, all orgasms are anal orgasms. The anal sphincters are connected to the pelvic floor running throughout the pelvis. The anus contracts at the muscles involved in orgasmic contractions.
The PC muscle is part of a flat, supportive muscle system known as the pelvic sling. The pelvic sling anchors to the pubic bone on one side, wraps behind the back of the rectum, and anchors to the other side of the pubic bone. It has two functions: to support the rectum, and to assist us in holding back a bowel movement. While the external sphincter has some influence over this, it’s mainly the job of the pelvic sling. It can become chronically tense, when it contracts, it compresses the rectum. This is possibly a major cause of constipation as well as not being able to enjoy anal penetration. Later we will explain how to get more relaxed and use these muscles in your comfort, which will enhance you anal pleasure.
The Rectum and the Anal Canal…
The rectum is about 20 to 22 centimetres long and opens directly into the anal canal, which is about 3 centimetres long. Because of their flexibility and strength, the anus and the rectum can adapt to a wide range of variously sized and shaped penises, butt plugs, and dildo´s.
A rich and complex network of nerve endings extends all around the anal opening, as well as underneath the head on the penis. Stimulation of these nerve endings is chiefly responsible for the pleasure (or pain) experienced during anal sex: However, the rectum, like the vaginal walls, responds more to pressure than other sensations. Thus, the anal walls are not as surface-sensitive as the anal opening.
Contrary to what everyone believes, the rectum isn´t a straight tube, in most people, it´s S-shaped, meaning that there are two major curves along its length. Running into the rectal wall with a sex toy penis or a fist accounts for much of the internal discomfort felt in anal sex.
Discomfort! Some people report feeling queasy or sore after being anally penetrated. Often, physical discomfort comes from not feeling completely relaxed at the time of intercourse: Most people find that prefer certain positions when being anally penetrated. It´s important that the penis, dildo´s or fist enters and moves at a comfortable angle, otherwise, it runs into the rectal wall, which can cause discomfort, even tearing or bleeding. Like I said before the rectum isn´t a straight tube and that its shape and elasticity vary from person to person. So be careful with insertion until you learn the location of the first rectal curve in your partner. Finger work before starting can help with this.
Farting happens during anal sex. For both parties this can be very uncomfortable, do not think the bottom is doing this on purpose! The best is to be matter-of-fact / cool about this. It´s nearly inevitable for the bottom to fart in some situations, basically, any time air has been pushed up to the butt when inserting toys, cocks or fists. This can happen during the enema. If you´re experiencing discomfort from trapped air, try breathing deeply. Laying on your side or in a position that your ass is higher than your head, crouching on all fours, you can push outwards on the exhalations.
The Anus
This is the anal canal's external opening of soft, pinkish tissue folds, which give it a puckered appearance. The anus is located several centimetres below the tailbone and several centimetres above the scrotum, directly behind the perineum. The Anus is rich in blood and vessels and sensitive nerve endings that enjoy stimulation and touch. The area surrounding the opening is populated with follicles; while every adult has hair surrounding the anus, it varies in appearance from fine and downy to thick and dark.
The Anal Sphincters
The anal opening contains two sphincters. Although they're called internal and external, they are actually somewhat overlapping bands of circular muscle.
The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system, which in turn controls all our voluntary muscles; suck those in our hands or legs. Typically, the external sphincter is under control; it's the muscle you tighten when you want to go to the bathroom but you can't go immediately.
The internal sphincter, by contrast, is part of the automatic nervous system, which controls reflexive functions such as breathing and blood pressure. With practice, one may learn exert some degree of influence over the action of the internal sphincter. This seems to be the spot that stores up much of the tension and stress in the anal region, which can lead to haemorrhoids and other anal discomfort.
A relaxed sphincter is capable of allowing feces to be expelled, whereas a tense sphincter is capable of excretion only by training, if at all. Likewise, it´s the tense state of the sphincters that makes anal penetration painful and difficult. Whereas relaxed sphincters facilitate pleasurable, pain-free anal penetration. Shortly we´ll explore some techniques for promoting anal relaxation.
The Perineal Muscles
Close to the sphincters are the perineal muscles, which have some relationship to the sphincters. The perineal muscles support the tissue surrounding the anus as well as the area between the genitals and the anus, called the perineum. My favourite spot…
Two specific perineal muscles are important to our purposes.
The first is the “bulbocavernosus” muscle.
The second important muscle is the “pubococcygeus” muscle, more commonly known as the PC muscle.
This is the same one you use to stop the flow of urine while peeing. You can squeeze it while you´re urinating or by simply pretending to urinate. You can feel the muscle contract by placing your finger on your perineum (the area between your genitals and the anus). Also, you can felt the contractions strongly in your anus. The PC muscle contracts randomly during sexual arousal and rhythmically during orgasm. Learning to control it voluntarily can enhance the quality of sex.
To some degree, all orgasms are anal orgasms. The anal sphincters are connected to the pelvic floor running throughout the pelvis. The anus contracts at the muscles involved in orgasmic contractions.
The PC muscle is part of a flat, supportive muscle system known as the pelvic sling. The pelvic sling anchors to the pubic bone on one side, wraps behind the back of the rectum, and anchors to the other side of the pubic bone. It has two functions: to support the rectum, and to assist us in holding back a bowel movement. While the external sphincter has some influence over this, it’s mainly the job of the pelvic sling. It can become chronically tense, when it contracts, it compresses the rectum. This is possibly a major cause of constipation as well as not being able to enjoy anal penetration. Later we will explain how to get more relaxed and use these muscles in your comfort, which will enhance you anal pleasure.
The Rectum and the Anal Canal…
The rectum is about 20 to 22 centimetres long and opens directly into the anal canal, which is about 3 centimetres long. Because of their flexibility and strength, the anus and the rectum can adapt to a wide range of variously sized and shaped penises, butt plugs, and dildo´s.
A rich and complex network of nerve endings extends all around the anal opening, as well as underneath the head on the penis. Stimulation of these nerve endings is chiefly responsible for the pleasure (or pain) experienced during anal sex: However, the rectum, like the vaginal walls, responds more to pressure than other sensations. Thus, the anal walls are not as surface-sensitive as the anal opening.
Contrary to what everyone believes, the rectum isn´t a straight tube, in most people, it´s S-shaped, meaning that there are two major curves along its length. Running into the rectal wall with a sex toy penis or a fist accounts for much of the internal discomfort felt in anal sex.
Discomfort! Some people report feeling queasy or sore after being anally penetrated. Often, physical discomfort comes from not feeling completely relaxed at the time of intercourse: Most people find that prefer certain positions when being anally penetrated. It´s important that the penis, dildo´s or fist enters and moves at a comfortable angle, otherwise, it runs into the rectal wall, which can cause discomfort, even tearing or bleeding. Like I said before the rectum isn´t a straight tube and that its shape and elasticity vary from person to person. So be careful with insertion until you learn the location of the first rectal curve in your partner. Finger work before starting can help with this.
Farting happens during anal sex. For both parties this can be very uncomfortable, do not think the bottom is doing this on purpose! The best is to be matter-of-fact / cool about this. It´s nearly inevitable for the bottom to fart in some situations, basically, any time air has been pushed up to the butt when inserting toys, cocks or fists. This can happen during the enema. If you´re experiencing discomfort from trapped air, try breathing deeply. Laying on your side or in a position that your ass is higher than your head, crouching on all fours, you can push outwards on the exhalations.
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Fisting: "The Act" - Part 2
TOP
now you had a fist in for the first time, you enjoyed it? Wasn´t it true you felt things with your hand you never felt before, soft & warm. So you looked at your bottom and how he was reacting. Was it a intense procedure or did the bottom ask to stop, did you took your hand out VERY SLOWLY?
BOTTOM if this was your first time and you could handle the hand, you enjoyed it? Maybe you felt a little pain, but was it pain? Or you totally loved the feeling of your ass being filed up. Hard, strong or sometimes soft, this depends of the hand size or the way it is build. Not only every ass is different but also the hands come in different form and sizes. NOW it is up to you how long you want the Fist inside, but do not feel ashamed to ask to stop. Did the top took out slowly his hand.
Now we had a break, we drunk something, smoked a cigarette or even talked about it … so let´s now start over...
If of course you feel good with it (smile)…
Every fister develops their own technique or
style of play over time. The most important thing is to do what feels safe and natural, and to pay exquisitely close attention to the fistee his response. So we go back in like I explained you in the first part. Did it not go the way you wanted or the fistee had too much difficulty to relax, let me tell yo that there are 2 techniques at the point of going in: twisting and straight pressure. Some respond better to one than to the other, while others require a combination of the two.
Twisting: Slowly work the hand against the resistance of the hole, making eight or quarter turns. As you push into the hole, increasing pressure, twist the hand slightly. Usually the anus slowly opens up and allows more of the hand inside.
Straight pressure: Hold the hand steady and apply ever-increasing pressure to the hole. Your partner will probably tell you to ease up at some point. Relax de pressure on the hole, but don´t unnecessarily pull the hand back. When he is ready, gently start increasing the pressure again.
Gentleness and patience are the well-known keys to this stage, pay attention on the signals the bottom is giving to you, as well as the signals the ass is sending you. Follow the natural curvature of the anal passage.
You can wiggle your fingers slowly to open as the ass relaxes but avoid sudden movements in all time. PLEASE BOTTOMS FOR YOU THIS COUNT TOO DO NOT MAKE SUDDEN MOVEMENTS OR STUPPID JUMPS. NEVER PULL OUT THE HAND OF YOUR PARTNER IN ONE MOVE.
So we are back in, sometimes in the last minutes the anus pulls the hand in this is normal, but seen often by the bottom as you go to fast. LOL instead their ass is too greedy, but they do not know. On the moment your hand is in for the bottom guy it is a moment of release of pressure and an ecstatic rush as the hand passage. It´s a mind blowing experience, especially for newly´s.
Once your hand is back inside, hold it still. Take a few breaths while you regard your partner. If he seems in another world, pause a few seconds before moving again. Remember on this point, the slightest movement of your hand is for him a large turning. Inside it is much more intensive than you think.
Encourage your partner to breathe deeply. This may take anywhere from a few seconds to minutes. Than go on slowly, allow your partner to direct the action. Sometimes you may feel a curve or rectal wall, let your fingers guide you, and go into a ball position. There are 2 sphincters and you will know when you past the two when the anus closes around your wrist. If this is not happened and you will feel it or see it at the reaction of the fistee, go back a little and push in again. Keep an eye on the amount of lube. You should keep adding lube or Crisco to your hand, your wrist and to or in your partners butt as you insert deeper. If the fistee is new to fisting, the feeling of sliding over a hand and resting on the inserting wrist will be very intense. As a top it is your responsibility to take care and time, so keep the movements minimal and talk to your fistee. If you have any doubts slow down. You can always ask the fistee he will tell you to speed up or slow down. For both or for one of you this can be new and you’re not used to open or get opened, so. I always breathe in time with my fistee or sometimes I will give the tempo of breathing. This restores the contact, confidence with the fistee and will relax him. Eye contact is still the most important.
So we want to continue, our hand is inside in a ball position! Now we can twist, wiggle, boxing/the piston, and pomp/bellows:
- The twist involves rotating the fist in a circular motion –SLOWLY- so that the anus rubs against the wrist and the rectum against the changing bulk of the fist. If the fistee is experienced we can speed up this process.
- The wiggle is carried out by rapidly vibrating the Fist; the fist isn´t moved but just vibrated. You can also tap on your underarm (of the hand that is inside) with the loosely clenched fist of the other hand; the result of these resulting vibrations will transmit in to your partner´s ass.
- Boxing or The piston involves moving the fist in and out of the rectum in a fucking motion; advanced fistee´s often enjoy having the fist come completely out and then back in. Please do this only with those who are used to it or on the moment you know or feel the ass is really open.
- Pomp or bellows involves opening and closing the fist slightly to increase the feeling of the bulk.
Please with all these movements be careful and gentle.
Let us stay with the twist for the moment the hand makes little rotations these are made in ¼ or 1/8 movements and if the fistee is experiment than we can even make ½ turns or more, but look at your bottom he will tell with his eyes if he likes it, words are in general no good sign. Even though there are guys who have to talk, even talk a lot, others start laughing (btw if the cry it isn’t good).
NOW for the BOTTOMS stop saying stupid things this can or will turn of the TOP. (I met guys who start to tell their life story, who the F**K want to know that when you´re fisting a guy. There are even worse things they can tell during the act.)
SO FOR ONCE AND FOR ALL, IF WE ARE FISTING KEEP IT TO THE ACT.
NOW AN OTHER PAINFULL SITUATION FOR THE TOP IS WHEN THE BOTTOM IS NOT RELAXING BUT GIVING THE ORDERS. And I do not mean; please easy or that hurts or slowly. NO when they start telling you every detail what you have to do!!!
OKAY, this drives me crazy, and in the 30 years of experience I learned exactly that this means the bottom isn´t ready at all. Even some of them are already fisting for some years. They are control freaks and even when they want to give themselves to the active guy the really can´t. Those are the bottoms who want to get fisted to have something in there ass. Okay some of you are getting angry now. But think about it fisting is giving the total control of your body (and soul) to the active guy, the top, so if you want the control over everything there is something not right in this story? You just want to have a bigger dildo in your ass but you cannot afford to buy one or they do not want to bring it in to the clubs. Or even worse it is much cooler to be part of the Fist community.
So maybe it is time for these bottoms to think things over or learn to relax so that the two parties can have real fun.
While we are twisting with our hand we have maybe more space than we thought, try to open one finger or two. Just open it a little! With this finger(s) we will try to touch the inside, on the right on the left… see the bottom thinks this is nice!
Now put your hand in a position that the fingers are on the top or bottom.
On the bottom, when your hand is in the down position you can touch with your fingers what we call the Pelvic floor / muscles this will tickle the bottom and gives a relaxed feeling.
On the top, the fingers are still a little open. Here when you touch you will feel the internal sphincter the body will react on this and in some cases even make to shake your partner, some of you bottoms shake so much that they can´t even stop their legs from moving others it will only be the under body part. This only happens if the bottom has totally confidence in you meaning he is totally relaxed, A little higher we can even touch the seminal vesicle or prostate/bladder. Now this is different with every guy, it depends how they are build. You will find out what you are touching, the bottom will tell or react on it, this in case if you touch the bladder or the prostate. With the little movements you make (ex. tapping your fingers) the bladder or prostate is gone react it wants to piss. The bottom if he isn´t relaxed or doesn´t know this feeling will say or scream STOP I have to piss! No he doesn´t you´re only playing with it. Now some of them really want you to stop on that moment, look at their eyes if they turn yellow/green or the joy is away from their eyes, let them go to the bathroom. Others say it but on the moment you stop for a second they don´t have to, try it again. If the suddenly piss while you´re fisting (this is why it is important to have a towel or latex sheet under you) it means you did a good job. NOW the bottom is totally relaxed and enjoying what you’re doing. Let him piss. It will be a little or not, but let him go ahead, anyhow it´s your fault he is doing this (smile).
If they are really relaxed and they trust you, do this a several times, twist a little move around and play with your fingers. You on the other hand on one moment feel something smaller, this is the seminal vesicle. Now play with it. You will see a smile on your partners face; this will give you a smile too. If it goes well your partner is gone come. Yes. This is the best (smile). Do not think if your partner doesn´t come you do something wrong, everyone is build different remember. On the other hand this can also happen when your fisting trough excitement or that you on one moment touch the seminal vesicle and ….
he will come!
Now you can also do these movements with you other hand, while one hand is in, in an up or down position and the anus is opened well enough, try to put one finger of the other hand inside too. Remember look at the bottom how he is reacting, he is still smiling or having a great time? With the finger you just put in you will try to reach either or the Pelvic floor or if it is on the upper side the bladder/prostate or the seminal vesicle. See he will like it.
After repeating some of these actions we just learned it is maybe time to take a break. The bottom is getting tired or thirsty, yes thirsty; it takes a lot of energy so. Even for you as a Top you will probably feel by now your upper arm/shoulder getting tired too or your hand is getting numb. So slowly we take our finger and/or hand out.
Out of respect we take some paper towels and clean the outside area around the anus off, and help the fistee come back on his feet. Be careful he can be dizzy (normal reaction, he was taking it remember), take him in your arms until you´re sure he is reacting okay, kiss him. It takes his mind of the situation.
Go drink, smoke or eat(sweet) something next time we will do more….
Sunday, March 17, 2013
Fisting: "The Act" - Part 1 1/2
To start with the phrase that I end with part 1: “take a break, drink something, smoke a cigarette and start over...” if everything went well the way you expected.
Some of you will feel a little dizzy, nothing wrong this is the reaction of the body to the fisting. My advice, sit down and eat something sweet, chocolate is the best!
For others a lot of questions come up; what happened? Did my ass take your hand? Is my ass gone close again? How deep will it go and more…
Let me try to explain why is the Ass so flexible?
The understanding of the anatomical structure and physiological purpose of the anus and rectum reveals both the source of the anatomical possibility of fisting and the source of the physical pleasure derived from it.
The rectum is a tube-like structure made of loose folds of soft, smooth tissue. Its total length is about 20 to 25 centimetres. Normally the rectum is more open and spacious than the anus. Like the anus, it has a striking capacity to expand.
The lower intestinal system forms essentially one continuous tube from the large colon to the sigmoid colon, thence to the rectum and anus. It is characterized by folds, called fossa, and curves. These folds give the system the ability to expand in much the same way as an accordion. The physiologic purpose of the lower intestinal system is as a waste compactor and eliminator. It is anatomically structured to deal with the movement of bulky material. The fossa allows the system to expand to accommodate the bulky material that it must deal with, and the smooth muscle that composes the walls of the system moves the material along it. A lining of mucosal tissue lubricates the procedure. By its nature then, the anal canal (the anus or anal opening) and the rectum are capable of learning to adapt to various sizes and to develop the flexibility and strength to deal with new demands.
The parts of the body that are of direct concern to fisting are the anal canal and the rectum.
The anal canal and rectum are usually called upon to release material. Fisting or the insertion of any object (like dildo´s) into the anal canal requires that the system operate in reverse.
The anal canal consists of both the external and internal sphincter and forms the anus itself. The anal canal is a very strong muscle group designed to expand and stretch to accommodate variously sized excretions. The anal canal is controlled by both the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, i.e., it functions by itself without the need for thought, but it can be taught to respond to one's will. After all, one does not defecate wherever one finds oneself. We have learned to retain our need for a bowel movement until we reach a proper locale - normally a toilet. Practitioners of anal sex have learned to control the anal canal to a great degree and to wilfully relax the anus to accommodate whatever object is being placed in it. Fisting requires great control over the anus. In time and with patience the anus can learn to allow a fist through. Depending upon the amount of anal experience a person may already have, the anal canal will either be ready or not to accept a fist. This also depends upon the size of the fist in question; a small fist will be easier to accept than a large one. Just as one does not expect to develop a V-chest overnight, neither should one expect to be able to accept a fist on the very first or even second try. Gentle unforced practice over time will develop the anal canal. Force can only lead to pain and injury.
How can you tell if the anus is ready to take a fist? It is quite simple: if there is pain, it is not ready. Unless you like pain, be patient with yourself and allow your anus to tell you when it is ready. This may require months or even a year or more, but you have your whole life. Do not let anyone force you to go beyond what you feel is your capacity at that moment. Still out of experience, if the TOP is good and experienced give him a little confidence
The rectum itself is already a cavity: it is a depot or way-station for material waiting to be eliminated through the anus. The rectum, therefore, usually does not pose as much a problem as the anus in accommodating a fist. There are some things about the rectum that you should be aware of, however.
The rectum is a muscle and, unless you've done a lot of experimenting with large dildo´s, it is probably not accustomed to accommodate an object the size of a fist. Like the anal canal, the rectum also requires patient training. By the time the anus is ready to allow a fist through, the rectum is usually ready to accommodate it. A fist or any object that is too large for the rectum can cause a mucosal laceration. This is not serious, but may require medical attention and a prescription for antibiotics.
Once you have decided that you are ready and you allow your anus to slide down a well-lubricated hand to come to rest upon and grip your partner's wrist, the feeling will be very intense. It is a difficult feeling to describe and, although it should not be painful or better said almost not with pain, the sensation may be so new and intense that you may not know if it is pleasure or pain. Over time, as you learn these new feelings, the intensity of entry diminishes. The new demands that you are placing upon your anus and rectum require it to stretch beyond what it normally expects.
Your partner inserts his hand into the anus by folding the fingers and following the natural curvature of your rectum. The thumb is kept in the palm and as the activity progresses the fingers fold over the thumb to form a fist. The intensity of the sensation comes from the act of stretching the rectal walls with the fingers. Once the Fist is formed, the rectum is called upon to accommodate the bulkiness of the Fist itself, and there is a great sensation of release as the anus is allowed to constrict around the wrist.
Although much of the pleasure of Fisting comes from the feeling of bulkiness, you may or may not be able to take it in the beginning and may want your partner to remove his hand almost immediately. This is very common and do not hesitate to let your partner know what you want. Removal of the hand can be as intense as insertion, however, and even though you may feel you want the hand out as soon as possible do not allow your partner to quickly pull it out and do not 'push' it out. By this time you have learned what it takes on your part to allow the hand to get into your rectum and you should follow the same, careful procedure in reverse. You can control the removal (and the insertion) by taking deep and slow breaths. From my own experience, I would say that learning to breathe deeply and slowly is the key to controlling the anus.
Even the idea that you want the hand out immediate, wait a view seconds or minutes to get used to it, even when the feeling is new than ask your partner to take the hand out slowly.
On the other hand, you may not want the immediate removal of the hand. When you reach this you are ready to enjoy the feeling of a fist in your rectum. Have your partner keep his hand completely still and allow yourself to feel the sensations of your rectum as it accommodates the fist.
Given the anatomic and physiologic nature of the anus and rectum - muscle groups designed to deal with the movement of matter of changing bulk - it should come as no surprise that through exercise the system can learn to accept something as large as a hand. As surgeons, often place their entire hands into anesthetized patients during rectal operations. It is not an utterly foreign procedure, but doing it for sexual pleasure is an entirely different matter.
Okay, there are some of you thinking now: jejeje and then will my ass close again? Our body is made to do or react on all kinds of things and one of them is that the anus muscle closes. For example after going to the toilet, it will do also now, of course over use off dildo´s and hands can make the muscle slack or limp. TO MUCH, is never good, but that is for everyone his own choice, however you should relax after playing. The best way to do so is to sit in a little warm bath or tub after playing or the next morning. This relaxes the anus muscle and things go back in place. There are also products you can get at the pharmacy to help, for example Voltaren crème, attention this tickles and feels hot for 30 seconds, but it helps especially when you had big hands.
OKAY another important thing is, do not think what you see in the Movies or on YouTube that you can take an arm up right away. Do not think if you go deeper that they will catch your heart. You will never come all the way that the hand will come out the other way.
The large in to the sigmoid colon in to the rectum are made with internal sphincters and an external called the anus. In normal cases we never go behind or better said we do not go higher/deeper than the 6 or 8th sphincter or ring. Every sphincter is gone give you de feeling as the first time you were fisted and can give the same pleasure or pain. This means every step is one to take with caution, after the 3rd or 4th sphincter please be careful. The deeper we go the more sensitive and thinner or smoother tissue gets.
So I hope that now everyone is reassured? So we can continue with playing…
Remember every time you Fist it will be different, there are no hands, no guys the same. Even when you play with the same guy it can be different. I know I said this before but I will do it over and over again; the most important is the connection between two people. You will feel more comfortable in general with a guy you´re attracted too, specially the TOPS, now speaking out of my point of view, I know I will give more when I am physical attracted to the bottom. For Bottom guys of course it is the same however, now I look at my own BF and there can be also other elements that will count or sometimes even more important. Like the size of the dick or the hands.
The sizes of the dicks we know we talk in centimetres long or/and wide, sizes of hands in contraire in general we speak about S (6), M (7-8), L (9-10), XL (11-12) and some XXL, this depends all of the bone structure or tissue and also on the way the hand can be folded.
So now we know even more let´s go back to the phrase were we ended part 1 and started this one with; “take a break, drink something, smoke a cigarette and start over...” things went nice and we want to try it again. Take back the position you feel yourself comfortable in and we work that ass again…
Start the whole process over what I told you in Part 1 and in the next time I will tell you what we do after entering…
For others a lot of questions come up; what happened? Did my ass take your hand? Is my ass gone close again? How deep will it go and more…
Let me try to explain why is the Ass so flexible?
The understanding of the anatomical structure and physiological purpose of the anus and rectum reveals both the source of the anatomical possibility of fisting and the source of the physical pleasure derived from it.
The rectum is a tube-like structure made of loose folds of soft, smooth tissue. Its total length is about 20 to 25 centimetres. Normally the rectum is more open and spacious than the anus. Like the anus, it has a striking capacity to expand.
The lower intestinal system forms essentially one continuous tube from the large colon to the sigmoid colon, thence to the rectum and anus. It is characterized by folds, called fossa, and curves. These folds give the system the ability to expand in much the same way as an accordion. The physiologic purpose of the lower intestinal system is as a waste compactor and eliminator. It is anatomically structured to deal with the movement of bulky material. The fossa allows the system to expand to accommodate the bulky material that it must deal with, and the smooth muscle that composes the walls of the system moves the material along it. A lining of mucosal tissue lubricates the procedure. By its nature then, the anal canal (the anus or anal opening) and the rectum are capable of learning to adapt to various sizes and to develop the flexibility and strength to deal with new demands.
The parts of the body that are of direct concern to fisting are the anal canal and the rectum.
The anal canal and rectum are usually called upon to release material. Fisting or the insertion of any object (like dildo´s) into the anal canal requires that the system operate in reverse.
The anal canal consists of both the external and internal sphincter and forms the anus itself. The anal canal is a very strong muscle group designed to expand and stretch to accommodate variously sized excretions. The anal canal is controlled by both the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, i.e., it functions by itself without the need for thought, but it can be taught to respond to one's will. After all, one does not defecate wherever one finds oneself. We have learned to retain our need for a bowel movement until we reach a proper locale - normally a toilet. Practitioners of anal sex have learned to control the anal canal to a great degree and to wilfully relax the anus to accommodate whatever object is being placed in it. Fisting requires great control over the anus. In time and with patience the anus can learn to allow a fist through. Depending upon the amount of anal experience a person may already have, the anal canal will either be ready or not to accept a fist. This also depends upon the size of the fist in question; a small fist will be easier to accept than a large one. Just as one does not expect to develop a V-chest overnight, neither should one expect to be able to accept a fist on the very first or even second try. Gentle unforced practice over time will develop the anal canal. Force can only lead to pain and injury.
How can you tell if the anus is ready to take a fist? It is quite simple: if there is pain, it is not ready. Unless you like pain, be patient with yourself and allow your anus to tell you when it is ready. This may require months or even a year or more, but you have your whole life. Do not let anyone force you to go beyond what you feel is your capacity at that moment. Still out of experience, if the TOP is good and experienced give him a little confidence
The rectum itself is already a cavity: it is a depot or way-station for material waiting to be eliminated through the anus. The rectum, therefore, usually does not pose as much a problem as the anus in accommodating a fist. There are some things about the rectum that you should be aware of, however.
The rectum is a muscle and, unless you've done a lot of experimenting with large dildo´s, it is probably not accustomed to accommodate an object the size of a fist. Like the anal canal, the rectum also requires patient training. By the time the anus is ready to allow a fist through, the rectum is usually ready to accommodate it. A fist or any object that is too large for the rectum can cause a mucosal laceration. This is not serious, but may require medical attention and a prescription for antibiotics.
Once you have decided that you are ready and you allow your anus to slide down a well-lubricated hand to come to rest upon and grip your partner's wrist, the feeling will be very intense. It is a difficult feeling to describe and, although it should not be painful or better said almost not with pain, the sensation may be so new and intense that you may not know if it is pleasure or pain. Over time, as you learn these new feelings, the intensity of entry diminishes. The new demands that you are placing upon your anus and rectum require it to stretch beyond what it normally expects.
Your partner inserts his hand into the anus by folding the fingers and following the natural curvature of your rectum. The thumb is kept in the palm and as the activity progresses the fingers fold over the thumb to form a fist. The intensity of the sensation comes from the act of stretching the rectal walls with the fingers. Once the Fist is formed, the rectum is called upon to accommodate the bulkiness of the Fist itself, and there is a great sensation of release as the anus is allowed to constrict around the wrist.
Although much of the pleasure of Fisting comes from the feeling of bulkiness, you may or may not be able to take it in the beginning and may want your partner to remove his hand almost immediately. This is very common and do not hesitate to let your partner know what you want. Removal of the hand can be as intense as insertion, however, and even though you may feel you want the hand out as soon as possible do not allow your partner to quickly pull it out and do not 'push' it out. By this time you have learned what it takes on your part to allow the hand to get into your rectum and you should follow the same, careful procedure in reverse. You can control the removal (and the insertion) by taking deep and slow breaths. From my own experience, I would say that learning to breathe deeply and slowly is the key to controlling the anus.
Even the idea that you want the hand out immediate, wait a view seconds or minutes to get used to it, even when the feeling is new than ask your partner to take the hand out slowly.
On the other hand, you may not want the immediate removal of the hand. When you reach this you are ready to enjoy the feeling of a fist in your rectum. Have your partner keep his hand completely still and allow yourself to feel the sensations of your rectum as it accommodates the fist.
Given the anatomic and physiologic nature of the anus and rectum - muscle groups designed to deal with the movement of matter of changing bulk - it should come as no surprise that through exercise the system can learn to accept something as large as a hand. As surgeons, often place their entire hands into anesthetized patients during rectal operations. It is not an utterly foreign procedure, but doing it for sexual pleasure is an entirely different matter.
Okay, there are some of you thinking now: jejeje and then will my ass close again? Our body is made to do or react on all kinds of things and one of them is that the anus muscle closes. For example after going to the toilet, it will do also now, of course over use off dildo´s and hands can make the muscle slack or limp. TO MUCH, is never good, but that is for everyone his own choice, however you should relax after playing. The best way to do so is to sit in a little warm bath or tub after playing or the next morning. This relaxes the anus muscle and things go back in place. There are also products you can get at the pharmacy to help, for example Voltaren crème, attention this tickles and feels hot for 30 seconds, but it helps especially when you had big hands.
OKAY another important thing is, do not think what you see in the Movies or on YouTube that you can take an arm up right away. Do not think if you go deeper that they will catch your heart. You will never come all the way that the hand will come out the other way.
The large in to the sigmoid colon in to the rectum are made with internal sphincters and an external called the anus. In normal cases we never go behind or better said we do not go higher/deeper than the 6 or 8th sphincter or ring. Every sphincter is gone give you de feeling as the first time you were fisted and can give the same pleasure or pain. This means every step is one to take with caution, after the 3rd or 4th sphincter please be careful. The deeper we go the more sensitive and thinner or smoother tissue gets.
So I hope that now everyone is reassured? So we can continue with playing…
Remember every time you Fist it will be different, there are no hands, no guys the same. Even when you play with the same guy it can be different. I know I said this before but I will do it over and over again; the most important is the connection between two people. You will feel more comfortable in general with a guy you´re attracted too, specially the TOPS, now speaking out of my point of view, I know I will give more when I am physical attracted to the bottom. For Bottom guys of course it is the same however, now I look at my own BF and there can be also other elements that will count or sometimes even more important. Like the size of the dick or the hands.
The sizes of the dicks we know we talk in centimetres long or/and wide, sizes of hands in contraire in general we speak about S (6), M (7-8), L (9-10), XL (11-12) and some XXL, this depends all of the bone structure or tissue and also on the way the hand can be folded.
So now we know even more let´s go back to the phrase were we ended part 1 and started this one with; “take a break, drink something, smoke a cigarette and start over...” things went nice and we want to try it again. Take back the position you feel yourself comfortable in and we work that ass again…
Start the whole process over what I told you in Part 1 and in the next time I will tell you what we do after entering…
Friday, March 15, 2013
FF FUN / Parties... in March/April 2013
Fist BCN at the Open Mind Barcelona (E)
Aduff at the Berlin Dark Barcelona (E)
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BLACK LEATHER BLACK RUBBER AND FF PARTY
Samedi, 16 Mars 2013 22:30
The Chaps Liege, Luik, Luttich (B)
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Officina, via Volta 4 Limena, Padova (I)
also:
VENERDI' 22 MARZO dalle ore 22,00 all OFFICINA
''ORGIA + ANIMAZIONE HARD'' e anche FIST !!!
ritorna a grande richiesta il sexy animatore LUCA-MI,
un nome ed una garanzia di....... slurp :-)), !!!
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Underground
Red Sunday
Teilnahme nur für Mitglieder des MLC und registrierte Freunde.
24 - 3 - 2013
Ort: UnderGround
Einlass: von 15:00 Uhr bis 17:00 Uhr
Eintritt: 12.00 EUR (Mitglieder 10.00 EUR)
Munich (D)
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Reizbar Berlin (D)
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Die RED-Session ist eine privat organisierte Fist-Party, die regelmäßig in den Räumen der Bösen Buben e.V. stattfindet.
Hole-y thursday / easter special (Thu, Mar 28th, 13)
Holy Thursday ist eine Fistparty
und ein special zu Ostern 2013.
Der Einlass ist vorbehalten, strenge Tür.
Einlass 21 .. 24 Uhr, Party läuft weiter ...
Böse buben Berlin - Schöneberg (D)
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Reopening of Le Keller in Paris
Samedi 23 mars
SPECIAL KELLER INAUGURATION
Partie privée
(uniquement sur invitation)
March 27 (public)
15h - 2h
and their first Fist party on
Lundi 1er avril
16h - 0h
FIST
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FIESTA ANIVERSARIO TRASH -FIST PARTY
Saturday, 6 April 2013.
22:00 until 05:00.
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Want your party here
or if you know there is a party near you
let me know...
Fisting & Drugs... Update
A follow
up of my previous article about Fist & Drugs.
I get a lot of questions about Steroids. Not using drugs myself I totally forgot this one. It´s true more and more we see steroids in our community you can see the results here in BCN at The Circuit parties. So I will try to answer it:
Steroids
are also known as anabolic steroids, ‘roids, gear, sauce or juice (e.g. ‘on the juice’). They’re made from the male hormone testosterone and help men build muscle - but only if they work out too.
Highs and lows:
Steroids can help a man can grow muscles bigger than he could if he trained without them. Big muscles can make him feel more confident and give him a buzz from feeling lusted after, accepted and part of a group of other muscled men.
Nearly all users experience some side effects. These include acne (especially on the back), trouble sleeping, gut problems, permanent hair loss, growth of breast tissue (‘bitch tits’), testicles getting smaller, water retention, high blood pressure (with a risk of stroke), raised cholesterol (fat in the blood), liver and heart damage, and prostate problems.
Users can experience mood changes, irritability and aggression (‘roid rage’). Coming off steroids can lead to depression and for some men possibly thoughts of suicide.
Injecting steroids carries its own health risks, such as skin abscesses or infections, and sharing injecting equipment spreads serious infections like HIV and hepatitis C.
Sex on steroids
Steroids can make someone feel more sexually confident and boost their sex drive and as a result they might be more likely to risk getting or passing on HIV. But steroids can also weaken a man’s sex drive and cause erection problems. Balls may shrink as the body no longer needs to make its own testosterone. Dick size isn’t affected.
Find out more about drugs and sex here.
A long term relationship?
Serious health problems are more likely the longer you take steroids and the bigger the dose.
Using them can feed a body disorder where men see themselves as smaller than they really are and become obsessed about their size. In the short term steroids might seem to help with low self-esteem but long term can make insecurities worse.
Steroids with other drugs:
I get a lot of questions about Steroids. Not using drugs myself I totally forgot this one. It´s true more and more we see steroids in our community you can see the results here in BCN at The Circuit parties. So I will try to answer it:
Steroids
are also known as anabolic steroids, ‘roids, gear, sauce or juice (e.g. ‘on the juice’). They’re made from the male hormone testosterone and help men build muscle - but only if they work out too.
Highs and lows:
Steroids can help a man can grow muscles bigger than he could if he trained without them. Big muscles can make him feel more confident and give him a buzz from feeling lusted after, accepted and part of a group of other muscled men.
Nearly all users experience some side effects. These include acne (especially on the back), trouble sleeping, gut problems, permanent hair loss, growth of breast tissue (‘bitch tits’), testicles getting smaller, water retention, high blood pressure (with a risk of stroke), raised cholesterol (fat in the blood), liver and heart damage, and prostate problems.
Users can experience mood changes, irritability and aggression (‘roid rage’). Coming off steroids can lead to depression and for some men possibly thoughts of suicide.
Injecting steroids carries its own health risks, such as skin abscesses or infections, and sharing injecting equipment spreads serious infections like HIV and hepatitis C.
Sex on steroids
Steroids can make someone feel more sexually confident and boost their sex drive and as a result they might be more likely to risk getting or passing on HIV. But steroids can also weaken a man’s sex drive and cause erection problems. Balls may shrink as the body no longer needs to make its own testosterone. Dick size isn’t affected.
Find out more about drugs and sex here.
A long term relationship?
Serious health problems are more likely the longer you take steroids and the bigger the dose.
Using them can feed a body disorder where men see themselves as smaller than they really are and become obsessed about their size. In the short term steroids might seem to help with low self-esteem but long term can make insecurities worse.
Steroids with other drugs:
- HIV medication – steroids and some HIV medication both raise levels of cholesterol (fat in the blood), so if you’re being treated for HIV you should be careful about using muscle-building drugs. A doctor should check your cholesterol levels as taking steroids when on HIV drugs puts extra strain on your liver. If you’re on some HIV meds they can cause raised levels of steroids in the blood, making side effects more likely. Ask your HIV doctor for advice.
- Ecstasy, speed, crystal meth and cocaine – these chems wipe out your energy levels and interfere with gym work outs - and make you lose weight when you’re trying to bulk up.
- Taking any drugs while using steroids will put extra strain on your liver. As steroids can affect your mood it is advisable to avoid other drugs that change your mental state.
Useful to know
- Illegally sold steroids can be contaminated, diluted, fake, or made for use with animals.
- Before starting steroids and while you’re on them it’s a good idea to have your heart, liver and kidney function and cholesterol levels monitored.
- Drinking lots of water (up to three litres a day) is important to clear from the body waste products caused by steroids.
- Steroids should be avoided if you have conditions like diabetes, high blood pressure, glaucoma, mental health problems or anything wrong with your heart.
- Steroids can stunt growth, so men under 24 are advised not to use them.
Thursday, March 14, 2013
Fisting and God's Will...
Not written by me, this was published in 2003 on the web, I still had it in my files,
so with Special thanks to Sex in Christ.com , sexuality according to the word of God.
The sex act called fisting is a source of confusion and misconceptions for many Christians. This is unfortunate, because it means that many Christian men and women are depriving themselves of what could be the most spiritual sexual experience of their lives. Like anal sex and BDSM, fisting is often mistakenly associated with the gay community or is considered a sex act too extreme to be appropriate for Christian couples. Not only are these views incorrect, but fisting actually has a scriptural precedent, as we will show.
The Fist of Might
Over and over in the scriptures, the hand and fist of God are described as a symbol of His awesome power and the means through which this power manifest: "O God, God of our ancestors, are you not God in heaven above and ruler of all kingdoms below? You hold all power and might in your fist.” (2 Chronicles 20:6) Of course, the Old Testament often makes reference to God smiting his enemies with his fist or striking down the wicked with his hand, but it is also the means through which he administers his blessings and benevolence to the righteous: ”You open Your hand and satisfy the desire of every living thing.” (Psalms 145:16) Through the hand of the Lord, he guides us to do his will, touches our lives, expresses His love, and provides for our needs with His abundance.
The biblical significance of the hand is important, because in the act of fisting, one partner inserts his entire hand and fist into the vagina or rectum of his partner. Rather than copulating with his penis, he penetrates him/her with his/her fist. Given the powerful symbolism of the fist, it is no surprises that couples who have partaken in the practice of fisting have described it as being a profoundly spiritual experience. On a symbolic and sexual level, a person who is fisted by his/her partner has the experience of surrendering completely to the divine love and power of the Lord, as embodied by her partner’s hand. The fister in turn has the experience of touching and caressing the inwardly, in such a deep and intimate manner as God touches our own souls with His grace.
Powerful yet Gentle
In the Song of Solomon, the Bible describes the act of fisting and the profound erotic bliss it induces: It is the voice of my beloved! He knocks, saying, "Open for me, my sister, my love, My dove, my perfect one”…My love thrust his hand through the opening, and my feelings were stirred for him. (Song of Solomon 5:2-4) Here we see the lover gently coaxing his companion to open up to him, metaphorically “knocking at her door,” preparing her sexually and emotionally to receive his hand inside her. Gradually he works more and more fingers into her, until the moment when her vagina yields and his hand slips fully inside her, thrusting “through the opening.” She then describes the powerful passion that this arouses in her as she, envelopes his entire hand inside her body. Many couples describe this moment, as the fist makes full penetration into the vaginal opening, as transcendent and a sexual revelation. As the woman’s body accommodates her husband’s hand, both may experience a sense of physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual oneness.
Some common misconceptions about fisting are that it is very painful or that it is somehow violent or abusive. This is far from the truth, and as we can see from the above description, it can be a gentle, loving, and highly erotic act. Fisting does not have to be painful if it is performed correctly, using enough lubrication and patience. The hand is inserted in a slow and controlled manner, and is preceded and followed by other sexual stimulation which may lead to orgasm. Both the vagina and the rectum are extremely elastic – a vagina, after all, can stretch to accommodate a full-term baby. And in fact, a woman who has been blessed with motherhood can more easily enjoy fisting because her vaginal opening is more flexible.
The act of fisting is physically challenging to perform, requiring patience on the part of the active partner, and relaxation on the part of the receiving partner. It cannot be rushed, and the two participants must communicate closely, with the fister carefully observing and attending to his partner’s comfort and limits, and the fistee directing her partner as to when to push forward and hold back as he works his hand into her. A Christian couple can use fisting to build trust and intimacy between them, as well as strengthening their relationship with the Lord.
Fisting as an Act of Faith
Before attempting fisting, a Christian couple should pray together and ask for divine guidance. The husband should ask that God guide his hand and work through him, and for the skill and patience to fist his wife correctly and maximize her pleasure. The wife should pray for openness and readiness to receive God’s love and grace in the form of her husband’s hand.
Both should treat the act of fisting as a divine spiritual mystery to be entered into with reverence and awe, especially the husband. In another spiritual interpretation of fisting, as he inserts his hand into his wife’s vagina, a man is symbolically re-enacting the moment of truth following Christ’s resurrection from the tomb, when Doubting Thomas touches the wounds in the Saviour’s flesh: Then He said to Thomas, "Put your finger here and observe My hands. Reach out your hand and put it into My side. Don't be an unbeliever, but a believer.” (John 20:27)Thomas’ doubt would not be satisfied until he physically felt the wounds in Christ’s body and penetrated His flesh with his hand. Likewise, the spiritual and sexual power of fisting cannot be known unless experienced physically.
Role Reversal
So far we have only discussed a husband fisting his wife, but some couples may wonder if it is appropriate for a wife to fist her husband if he enjoys anal stimulation. In most cases, a wife indulging her husband’s desire to receive light anal play is not problematic in the context of a healthy sexual relationship. A wife may even anally penetrate her partner with a strap-on dildo if he enjoys this, and if their respective roles as husband and wife are secure outside of the bedroom.
However, because of the intense nature of the act of fisting and the degree of surrender and submission involved in being fisted, a couple should first look deeply into their own hearts and pray for guidance as to whether it is wise for the wife to fist the husband. They should undertake this only if their relationship is such that the husband can assume a submissive and passive role during a sexual act, while afterward still maintaining his role as the spiritual head of the household and leader in the marriage.
so with Special thanks to Sex in Christ.com , sexuality according to the word of God.
The sex act called fisting is a source of confusion and misconceptions for many Christians. This is unfortunate, because it means that many Christian men and women are depriving themselves of what could be the most spiritual sexual experience of their lives. Like anal sex and BDSM, fisting is often mistakenly associated with the gay community or is considered a sex act too extreme to be appropriate for Christian couples. Not only are these views incorrect, but fisting actually has a scriptural precedent, as we will show.
The Fist of Might
Over and over in the scriptures, the hand and fist of God are described as a symbol of His awesome power and the means through which this power manifest: "O God, God of our ancestors, are you not God in heaven above and ruler of all kingdoms below? You hold all power and might in your fist.” (2 Chronicles 20:6) Of course, the Old Testament often makes reference to God smiting his enemies with his fist or striking down the wicked with his hand, but it is also the means through which he administers his blessings and benevolence to the righteous: ”You open Your hand and satisfy the desire of every living thing.” (Psalms 145:16) Through the hand of the Lord, he guides us to do his will, touches our lives, expresses His love, and provides for our needs with His abundance.
The biblical significance of the hand is important, because in the act of fisting, one partner inserts his entire hand and fist into the vagina or rectum of his partner. Rather than copulating with his penis, he penetrates him/her with his/her fist. Given the powerful symbolism of the fist, it is no surprises that couples who have partaken in the practice of fisting have described it as being a profoundly spiritual experience. On a symbolic and sexual level, a person who is fisted by his/her partner has the experience of surrendering completely to the divine love and power of the Lord, as embodied by her partner’s hand. The fister in turn has the experience of touching and caressing the inwardly, in such a deep and intimate manner as God touches our own souls with His grace.
Powerful yet Gentle
In the Song of Solomon, the Bible describes the act of fisting and the profound erotic bliss it induces: It is the voice of my beloved! He knocks, saying, "Open for me, my sister, my love, My dove, my perfect one”…My love thrust his hand through the opening, and my feelings were stirred for him. (Song of Solomon 5:2-4) Here we see the lover gently coaxing his companion to open up to him, metaphorically “knocking at her door,” preparing her sexually and emotionally to receive his hand inside her. Gradually he works more and more fingers into her, until the moment when her vagina yields and his hand slips fully inside her, thrusting “through the opening.” She then describes the powerful passion that this arouses in her as she, envelopes his entire hand inside her body. Many couples describe this moment, as the fist makes full penetration into the vaginal opening, as transcendent and a sexual revelation. As the woman’s body accommodates her husband’s hand, both may experience a sense of physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual oneness.
Some common misconceptions about fisting are that it is very painful or that it is somehow violent or abusive. This is far from the truth, and as we can see from the above description, it can be a gentle, loving, and highly erotic act. Fisting does not have to be painful if it is performed correctly, using enough lubrication and patience. The hand is inserted in a slow and controlled manner, and is preceded and followed by other sexual stimulation which may lead to orgasm. Both the vagina and the rectum are extremely elastic – a vagina, after all, can stretch to accommodate a full-term baby. And in fact, a woman who has been blessed with motherhood can more easily enjoy fisting because her vaginal opening is more flexible.
The act of fisting is physically challenging to perform, requiring patience on the part of the active partner, and relaxation on the part of the receiving partner. It cannot be rushed, and the two participants must communicate closely, with the fister carefully observing and attending to his partner’s comfort and limits, and the fistee directing her partner as to when to push forward and hold back as he works his hand into her. A Christian couple can use fisting to build trust and intimacy between them, as well as strengthening their relationship with the Lord.
Fisting as an Act of Faith
Before attempting fisting, a Christian couple should pray together and ask for divine guidance. The husband should ask that God guide his hand and work through him, and for the skill and patience to fist his wife correctly and maximize her pleasure. The wife should pray for openness and readiness to receive God’s love and grace in the form of her husband’s hand.
Both should treat the act of fisting as a divine spiritual mystery to be entered into with reverence and awe, especially the husband. In another spiritual interpretation of fisting, as he inserts his hand into his wife’s vagina, a man is symbolically re-enacting the moment of truth following Christ’s resurrection from the tomb, when Doubting Thomas touches the wounds in the Saviour’s flesh: Then He said to Thomas, "Put your finger here and observe My hands. Reach out your hand and put it into My side. Don't be an unbeliever, but a believer.” (John 20:27)Thomas’ doubt would not be satisfied until he physically felt the wounds in Christ’s body and penetrated His flesh with his hand. Likewise, the spiritual and sexual power of fisting cannot be known unless experienced physically.
Role Reversal
So far we have only discussed a husband fisting his wife, but some couples may wonder if it is appropriate for a wife to fist her husband if he enjoys anal stimulation. In most cases, a wife indulging her husband’s desire to receive light anal play is not problematic in the context of a healthy sexual relationship. A wife may even anally penetrate her partner with a strap-on dildo if he enjoys this, and if their respective roles as husband and wife are secure outside of the bedroom.
However, because of the intense nature of the act of fisting and the degree of surrender and submission involved in being fisted, a couple should first look deeply into their own hearts and pray for guidance as to whether it is wise for the wife to fist the husband. They should undertake this only if their relationship is such that the husband can assume a submissive and passive role during a sexual act, while afterward still maintaining his role as the spiritual head of the household and leader in the marriage.
Wednesday, March 13, 2013
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Tuesday, March 12, 2013
Why is fisting pleasurable?
Question asked by Mike H. from the UK,
Where do I start? I can begin to describe the ecstasy of what it feels like the first time a real man’s fist invades your ass or the first time you put your fist in someone’s nice cute ass. But aside from the obvious feelings of being ultimately fucked and filled, it’s also a sense that — without question — you’re out of control or in control. The guy has a power over your body and is driving and steering it in whatever direction and speed he chooses. It’s also a feeling of connection — the ultimate intimacy — of which I’d never felt before.
But a real evaluation of the practice of fisting should be based on information and not fear. "The ultimate intimacy", it was that surging through my blood, my brain and my being — all at the speed of light. But as a person, I have a great need to analyze and understand myself and the world around me. It is not enough for me to just 'feel'. I do not see myself as a pervert or Sado-Masochist. I am a sane, intelligent, educated and rational man with the desire to explore anal pleasure to its limits. I have a deep respect for my health, my body and my mind. I would never participate in any activity that would purposely hurt me or others. Sex for me has always been a positive and pleasant act to be carried out without shame.
Getting involved in fisting did, however, force me to re- evaluate myself and my desires. The insertion of a fist into an ass carries with it powerful overtones of dominance and submission and shades of S&M. In addition, the potential physical dangers involved are very real. Before I could accepted fisting as a legitimate sexual act I had to know everything about it. I was lucky that I was introduced into this fetish pleasure by some guys who practiced it for quite a long time and took the time to learn and tell me about it. Unfortunately information on this subject is difficult to come by, in my time (the early 80´s) and even now with the help of the web.
Fisting arouses a great deal of emotion. Although it seems that every homosexual is curious about the practice, the feelings it arouses are mixed: men are either all for it or totally repelled by it. This situation is a result of the great amount of ignorance that exists about the subject. Though the practice of handball is continually gaining in popularity even more the last 10 years, there is a general avoidance of the topic - both in the media and in conversation. When, it is discussed. It´s usually as some sort of bizarre perversion! The gay media has particularly avoided the issue.
Sex is essentially an activity of the mind for which the body is only the agent. There are multitude of sexual variations many of which are potentially more dangerous than fisting - bondage, whipping, suffocation, piercing, scarification, etc. Fisting however appears to arouse the greatest amount of fear! A real evaluation of the practice of fisting should be based on information and not fear.
The folds of anal tissue give the anal canal a striking capacity for expansion, depending on the level of muscular tension. For example, during rectal surgery, under anesthesia, a person's anal muscles can be easily dilated so the surgeon's entire hand can pass through the anal canal. So also in a private session it will, only with a lot of patience and care we can arrive to a curtain climax. With- or without drugs.
Where do I start? I can begin to describe the ecstasy of what it feels like the first time a real man’s fist invades your ass or the first time you put your fist in someone’s nice cute ass. But aside from the obvious feelings of being ultimately fucked and filled, it’s also a sense that — without question — you’re out of control or in control. The guy has a power over your body and is driving and steering it in whatever direction and speed he chooses. It’s also a feeling of connection — the ultimate intimacy — of which I’d never felt before.
But a real evaluation of the practice of fisting should be based on information and not fear. "The ultimate intimacy", it was that surging through my blood, my brain and my being — all at the speed of light. But as a person, I have a great need to analyze and understand myself and the world around me. It is not enough for me to just 'feel'. I do not see myself as a pervert or Sado-Masochist. I am a sane, intelligent, educated and rational man with the desire to explore anal pleasure to its limits. I have a deep respect for my health, my body and my mind. I would never participate in any activity that would purposely hurt me or others. Sex for me has always been a positive and pleasant act to be carried out without shame.
Getting involved in fisting did, however, force me to re- evaluate myself and my desires. The insertion of a fist into an ass carries with it powerful overtones of dominance and submission and shades of S&M. In addition, the potential physical dangers involved are very real. Before I could accepted fisting as a legitimate sexual act I had to know everything about it. I was lucky that I was introduced into this fetish pleasure by some guys who practiced it for quite a long time and took the time to learn and tell me about it. Unfortunately information on this subject is difficult to come by, in my time (the early 80´s) and even now with the help of the web.
Fisting arouses a great deal of emotion. Although it seems that every homosexual is curious about the practice, the feelings it arouses are mixed: men are either all for it or totally repelled by it. This situation is a result of the great amount of ignorance that exists about the subject. Though the practice of handball is continually gaining in popularity even more the last 10 years, there is a general avoidance of the topic - both in the media and in conversation. When, it is discussed. It´s usually as some sort of bizarre perversion! The gay media has particularly avoided the issue.
Sex is essentially an activity of the mind for which the body is only the agent. There are multitude of sexual variations many of which are potentially more dangerous than fisting - bondage, whipping, suffocation, piercing, scarification, etc. Fisting however appears to arouse the greatest amount of fear! A real evaluation of the practice of fisting should be based on information and not fear.
The folds of anal tissue give the anal canal a striking capacity for expansion, depending on the level of muscular tension. For example, during rectal surgery, under anesthesia, a person's anal muscles can be easily dilated so the surgeon's entire hand can pass through the anal canal. So also in a private session it will, only with a lot of patience and care we can arrive to a curtain climax. With- or without drugs.
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