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now you had a fist in for the first time, you enjoyed it? Wasn´t it true you felt things with your hand you never felt before, soft & warm. So you looked at your bottom and how he was reacting. Was it a intense procedure or did the bottom ask to stop, did you took your hand out VERY SLOWLY?
BOTTOM if this was your first time and you could handle the hand, you enjoyed it? Maybe you felt a little pain, but was it pain? Or you totally loved the feeling of your ass being filed up. Hard, strong or sometimes soft, this depends of the hand size or the way it is build. Not only every ass is different but also the hands come in different form and sizes. NOW it is up to you how long you want the Fist inside, but do not feel ashamed to ask to stop. Did the top took out slowly his hand.
Now we had a break, we drunk something, smoked a cigarette or even talked about it … so let´s now start over...
If of course you feel good with it (smile)…
Every fister develops their own technique or
style of play over time. The most important thing is to do what feels safe and natural, and to pay exquisitely close attention to the fistee his response. So we go back in like I explained you in the first part. Did it not go the way you wanted or the fistee had too much difficulty to relax, let me tell yo that there are 2 techniques at the point of going in: twisting and straight pressure. Some respond better to one than to the other, while others require a combination of the two.
Twisting: Slowly work the hand against the resistance of the hole, making eight or quarter turns. As you push into the hole, increasing pressure, twist the hand slightly. Usually the anus slowly opens up and allows more of the hand inside.
Straight pressure: Hold the hand steady and apply ever-increasing pressure to the hole. Your partner will probably tell you to ease up at some point. Relax de pressure on the hole, but don´t unnecessarily pull the hand back. When he is ready, gently start increasing the pressure again.
Gentleness and patience are the well-known keys to this stage, pay attention on the signals the bottom is giving to you, as well as the signals the ass is sending you. Follow the natural curvature of the anal passage.
You can wiggle your fingers slowly to open as the ass relaxes but avoid sudden movements in all time. PLEASE BOTTOMS FOR YOU THIS COUNT TOO DO NOT MAKE SUDDEN MOVEMENTS OR STUPPID JUMPS. NEVER PULL OUT THE HAND OF YOUR PARTNER IN ONE MOVE.
So we are back in, sometimes in the last minutes the anus pulls the hand in this is normal, but seen often by the bottom as you go to fast. LOL instead their ass is too greedy, but they do not know. On the moment your hand is in for the bottom guy it is a moment of release of pressure and an ecstatic rush as the hand passage. It´s a mind blowing experience, especially for newly´s.
Once your hand is back inside, hold it still. Take a few breaths while you regard your partner. If he seems in another world, pause a few seconds before moving again. Remember on this point, the slightest movement of your hand is for him a large turning. Inside it is much more intensive than you think.
Encourage your partner to breathe deeply. This may take anywhere from a few seconds to minutes. Than go on slowly, allow your partner to direct the action. Sometimes you may feel a curve or rectal wall, let your fingers guide you, and go into a ball position. There are 2 sphincters and you will know when you past the two when the anus closes around your wrist. If this is not happened and you will feel it or see it at the reaction of the fistee, go back a little and push in again. Keep an eye on the amount of lube. You should keep adding lube or Crisco to your hand, your wrist and to or in your partners butt as you insert deeper. If the fistee is new to fisting, the feeling of sliding over a hand and resting on the inserting wrist will be very intense. As a top it is your responsibility to take care and time, so keep the movements minimal and talk to your fistee. If you have any doubts slow down. You can always ask the fistee he will tell you to speed up or slow down. For both or for one of you this can be new and you’re not used to open or get opened, so. I always breathe in time with my fistee or sometimes I will give the tempo of breathing. This restores the contact, confidence with the fistee and will relax him. Eye contact is still the most important.
So we want to continue, our hand is inside in a ball position! Now we can twist, wiggle, boxing/the piston, and pomp/bellows:
- The twist involves rotating the fist in a circular motion –SLOWLY- so that the anus rubs against the wrist and the rectum against the changing bulk of the fist. If the fistee is experienced we can speed up this process.
- The wiggle is carried out by rapidly vibrating the Fist; the fist isn´t moved but just vibrated. You can also tap on your underarm (of the hand that is inside) with the loosely clenched fist of the other hand; the result of these resulting vibrations will transmit in to your partner´s ass.
- Boxing or The piston involves moving the fist in and out of the rectum in a fucking motion; advanced fistee´s often enjoy having the fist come completely out and then back in. Please do this only with those who are used to it or on the moment you know or feel the ass is really open.
- Pomp or bellows involves opening and closing the fist slightly to increase the feeling of the bulk.
Please with all these movements be careful and gentle.
Let us stay with the twist for the moment the hand makes little rotations these are made in ¼ or 1/8 movements and if the fistee is experiment than we can even make ½ turns or more, but look at your bottom he will tell with his eyes if he likes it, words are in general no good sign. Even though there are guys who have to talk, even talk a lot, others start laughing (btw if the cry it isn’t good).
NOW for the BOTTOMS stop saying stupid things this can or will turn of the TOP. (I met guys who start to tell their life story, who the F**K want to know that when you´re fisting a guy. There are even worse things they can tell during the act.)
SO FOR ONCE AND FOR ALL, IF WE ARE FISTING KEEP IT TO THE ACT.
NOW AN OTHER PAINFULL SITUATION FOR THE TOP IS WHEN THE BOTTOM IS NOT RELAXING BUT GIVING THE ORDERS. And I do not mean; please easy or that hurts or slowly. NO when they start telling you every detail what you have to do!!!
OKAY, this drives me crazy, and in the 30 years of experience I learned exactly that this means the bottom isn´t ready at all. Even some of them are already fisting for some years. They are control freaks and even when they want to give themselves to the active guy the really can´t. Those are the bottoms who want to get fisted to have something in there ass. Okay some of you are getting angry now. But think about it fisting is giving the total control of your body (and soul) to the active guy, the top, so if you want the control over everything there is something not right in this story? You just want to have a bigger dildo in your ass but you cannot afford to buy one or they do not want to bring it in to the clubs. Or even worse it is much cooler to be part of the Fist community.
So maybe it is time for these bottoms to think things over or learn to relax so that the two parties can have real fun.
While we are twisting with our hand we have maybe more space than we thought, try to open one finger or two. Just open it a little! With this finger(s) we will try to touch the inside, on the right on the left… see the bottom thinks this is nice!
Now put your hand in a position that the fingers are on the top or bottom.
On the bottom, when your hand is in the down position you can touch with your fingers what we call the Pelvic floor / muscles this will tickle the bottom and gives a relaxed feeling.
On the top, the fingers are still a little open. Here when you touch you will feel the internal sphincter the body will react on this and in some cases even make to shake your partner, some of you bottoms shake so much that they can´t even stop their legs from moving others it will only be the under body part. This only happens if the bottom has totally confidence in you meaning he is totally relaxed, A little higher we can even touch the seminal vesicle or prostate/bladder. Now this is different with every guy, it depends how they are build. You will find out what you are touching, the bottom will tell or react on it, this in case if you touch the bladder or the prostate. With the little movements you make (ex. tapping your fingers) the bladder or prostate is gone react it wants to piss. The bottom if he isn´t relaxed or doesn´t know this feeling will say or scream STOP I have to piss! No he doesn´t you´re only playing with it. Now some of them really want you to stop on that moment, look at their eyes if they turn yellow/green or the joy is away from their eyes, let them go to the bathroom. Others say it but on the moment you stop for a second they don´t have to, try it again. If the suddenly piss while you´re fisting (this is why it is important to have a towel or latex sheet under you) it means you did a good job. NOW the bottom is totally relaxed and enjoying what you’re doing. Let him piss. It will be a little or not, but let him go ahead, anyhow it´s your fault he is doing this (smile).
If they are really relaxed and they trust you, do this a several times, twist a little move around and play with your fingers. You on the other hand on one moment feel something smaller, this is the seminal vesicle. Now play with it. You will see a smile on your partners face; this will give you a smile too. If it goes well your partner is gone come. Yes. This is the best (smile). Do not think if your partner doesn´t come you do something wrong, everyone is build different remember. On the other hand this can also happen when your fisting trough excitement or that you on one moment touch the seminal vesicle and ….
he will come!
Now you can also do these movements with you other hand, while one hand is in, in an up or down position and the anus is opened well enough, try to put one finger of the other hand inside too. Remember look at the bottom how he is reacting, he is still smiling or having a great time? With the finger you just put in you will try to reach either or the Pelvic floor or if it is on the upper side the bladder/prostate or the seminal vesicle. See he will like it.
After repeating some of these actions we just learned it is maybe time to take a break. The bottom is getting tired or thirsty, yes thirsty; it takes a lot of energy so. Even for you as a Top you will probably feel by now your upper arm/shoulder getting tired too or your hand is getting numb. So slowly we take our finger and/or hand out.
Out of respect we take some paper towels and clean the outside area around the anus off, and help the fistee come back on his feet. Be careful he can be dizzy (normal reaction, he was taking it remember), take him in your arms until you´re sure he is reacting okay, kiss him. It takes his mind of the situation.
Go drink, smoke or eat(sweet) something next time we will do more….
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