Fisting: "The Act" - Part 1

So you are in position now…

Your first goal when fisting a guy should be not to cause any damage. Like any other kind of anal play, fisting should not cause pain or serious physical trauma. Pain or severe discomfort is a sign that your body is not ready or relaxed enough for this type of play. It’s extremely important for both of you to communicate to each other about this and to stop if the guy who is being penetrated /fisted feels any pain. Sometimes, even if you have fisted or been fisted by a guy before or even the same guy, the body or the mind refuses or not able to accept to take a whole hand, the best thing to do in that case is to acknowledge that it’s not going to happen. Never force the process. 

Still there is pain and pain, like I wrote before, it doesn’t matter if you are new or for those who are already in to fisting for long years. When the bottom (fistee) says “stop”, I look in his eyes and check if I see the stars in his eyes. If yes, I slow down and continue smoother… It can happen often that the bottom (fistee) says stop. You do not always have to stop immediately, but if the color of his eyes changed to yellow, or green, and the stars disappeared it’s a clearly sign that you have to stop. 

Second, realize that fisting is indeed a process. You’re not going to squeeze your hand into someone’s body cavity without a lot of warm-up. You can begin with some non-penetrative activities that will get blood moving to the recipient’s pelvis, any kind of genital or anal stimulation that they find enjoyable. Or you start with dildo´s or even by fucking the guy. In general I lick or rim the ass first it is a wonderful way to find out how relaxed the bottom is, by rimming the bottom you can find out if the ass is relaxed or locked, you can feel his legs and see if they are in a comfortable position and if the legs are tense or relaxed, same with the stomach feel if it is relaxed. With the for-play in general the guy you play with will get relaxed.

When your bottom is ready for penetration, insert one or two fingers anally and massage him internally to begin to relax the muscles. It’s important to use lots of lubricant during this process! Follow it up with three or four fingers. Most guys find it easier to insert their fingers in a “V” shape, with all four fingers coming together in a point like a duck’s beak. 

The beak-like "silent duck" used in the initial stages of fisting. The "Silent Duck", also called "Duck-Billing", is the technique much often used in which the person engaging in hand insertion shapes the hand to resemble a duck's beak. Instead, all five fingers are kept straight and held as close together as possible (forming the beak-like "duck"), then slowly inserted into a well lubricated rectum. This process can take between 10 to 60 minutes; all depends on the ass and the bottom.

The most intense part of the process, and the point at which many people get stuck and realize that they may have to stop, is inserting the thumb (again in a “V” shape with the rest of the fingers) and then getting past the knuckles, since this is the widest part of the hand. This requires a lot of relaxation from the part of the bottom (fistee), who may find it helpful to bear down with their muscles. Guys with smaller hands will find this step easier to accomplish than guys with larger hands like myself (no surprise there). If you try, sometimes you have to push, not to hard and you make slow movements in and out to larger the rectum. If the knuckles do not pas right away, you also can try with 3 or 4 fingers to make movements from the left to the right, depends on the opening. As you feel the ass opens up use both hands and place of each hand 3 or 4 fingers inside and make movements like you open or close something (pushing from the in to the outside). The best way is to have the back of your hands against each other (opposite of the pray position). Of course these movements have to be done slowly. From the moment your fingers are going in you can also start to move them around inside 1, 2, or more just move the tops of your fingers. This can give a nice feeling for the bottom.

Once past the knuckles, the inserting partner may find that the rest of their hand is naturally pulled into the anus and that their fingers and thumb curl into a ball.

If the hand is in and stays in a “duck” position do not immediately try to close the hand into a ball. STOP and give the bottom a little time to get used to your hand. Either way; in a “duck” or “ball” position. Every ass/rectum is different so try to feel the bottoms ass. Deep or short in length, narrow or wide, there are all kinds of! If you did not automatically go in to a ball position try to find if there is place to close the hand in this position, remember again slowly. Close not the whole hand in one movement sometimes you have to do this finger by finger. AGAIN do not force.

Before, after closing or in the position you came in: duck or ball, now you can move slowly around your hand from left to right or right to left. You can also make little push movements slowly in and out (but leave the hand inside), these push movements are not bigger than a half centimeter in general. If the ass is deep or wide this can be a little more.

TOP 
now you have a fist in for the first time, enjoy! You feel things with your hand you never felt before, soft & warm. But keep in mind, look at your bottom and how he is reacting. If it was a to intense procedure or when the bottom asks for it to stop, take the hand out AGAIN VERY SLOWLY.

BOTTOM 
if this is your first time and you can handle the hand, enjoy! Maybe you felt a little pain, but was it pain? Or you totally love the feeling of your ass being filed up. Hard, strong or sometimes soft, this depends of the hand size or the way it is build. Not only every ass is different but also the hands come in different form and sizes. NOW it is up to you how long you want the fist inside, but do not feel ashamed to ask to stop. The top will now slowly take out his hand.

Take a break, drink something, smoke a cigarette and start over...